Angel paintings and Aftercare

While I was on a Bahamas cruise a couple years ago, on the cruise ship they had an art auction/show I went to and I found a new artist I like: Thomasz Rut. He has a classical style of painting that I love but also some of his paintings are about loving couples and some show the male in a more submissive pose. (well at least to me). Since my last blog post showed a male angel, here's some of Rut's paintings involving female Angels that I liked.

To me, it looks like intimate Aftercare treatment after the male sub took some intense pain for his Domme. A beautiful expression of renewed closeness.

Aftercare: Affectionate care and attention following any type of traumatic or mentally challenging event. Aftercare can involve physically comforting the brave submissive, kisses, cuddling, being wrapped in a blanket, words of praise from his Mistress, etc.

Related links:
-Thomasz Rut's website
-Aftercare definition on wikipedia
-The BDSM Scene and Aftercare

Fallen Angel

A fallen angel saved by Womankind.
I saw this pic on another site. Here's someone else's proposed caption:
"Ah, the spider-ladies have caught a fly in their web. And he will soon be supplying their nourishment (evil laugh)."

Her smile and pegging

A sub should strive to do whatever he can to please his Mistress. In the end, it's all worth it. She's pleased. I just love it when a male sub is a good personal slut for Me. I can take him when and where I want.

A boy and his Mistress.
In recent years, the term "pegging" has come up with regard to a male receiving anal penetration by a Woman. Now I like that there's a term to cover any kind of anal penetration since I like to use strapon dildos and also double ended dildos, but I am just not a fan of the term "pegging" in particular. My Femdom cock is not a peg. To me, a peg is a small clothes peg. And my femdom cock is never that small. See what I mean...here's a photo of my anal penetration toys.

This photo on my toys was taken in june 2011 so I have a couple other things that aren't pictured. And I used to have more on the bigger end but had to get rid of some due to material issues. I'll have to go shopping again sometime for more such as another big black cock (strapon). =)

So in conclusion, for now I use the terms "strapon" or "strapon sex" instead of "pegging". If a sub asks to be pegged, the response would be more like this...

I think he needs a little bit more decoration.

Happy Sexy Tuesday

Tuesday is Sexy Nude Male Carwash Day. All males are forcefully stripped by the Ladies and the Ladies get a free carwash by the naked male subs. =) They're also fed grapes and chocolate covered strawberries by other naked male subs on the side while they wait. Okay...so it's a virtual carwash in my own world but it still counts. =) I think my female web visitors will still enjoy seeing this picture.

Hurry up, boys...my car is next. ;) All these nude males remind me...I have to find out when the next CFNM party is in south florida and also get back my paddle I left at the dungeon during the last cfnm party. (cfnm = clothed Female, nude male). Hmmm...I'll have to bring up this above idea to the party organizers next time I see them.

male shower bondage

There's a rope bondage class this week for the kinky leather ladies group I help lead. So I dug out some of my rope bondage books to review and found this delicious photo in my 'male bondage' book. damn. Now I'm horny and in the mood to tie a male up in the shower like this, turn on the water and slowly watch it drip off his body and then force him up against the wall and take his restrained little ass with my strapon cock while he moans like my bitch.
(Note to self: practice this look in rope on a male in order to make this fantasy a reality. Second note to self: when I run out of room for kidnapped males, start putting them in my large walk in shower. ;) )

Collar and its meaning

According to wikipedia: "A collar is a device of any material placed around the neck of the submissive partner. It is also a term used to show ownership of one partner by another. A person wearing a collar to symbolize their relationship with another is said to be collared."

There's more to it than that.

Being "owned"..becoming the property of a dominant Woman...being "collared" by her...what does it mean? what does it consist of? (I'm not talking about a temporary leather collar during a scene. I'm talking ownership.)

They make a commitment to one another long term.
- The submissive male pledges to only serve and be loyal to the dominant Woman. He strives to do his best to obey and put a smile on her face. And to make her proud of him in all that he does. he belongs to Her.
- The dominant Woman pledges to accept his submission, cherish it and take the responsibility of truly training him to her liking. She acknowleges that he is now part of her..her property..a reflection of her. He is under her care.

Possible outward signs of their union:
-signing a slave contract specifying their roles and responsibilities
-marks of ownership (ie: tattoo of her choosing on him, or special jewelry to be worn always such as a special collar, necklace or bracelet to symbolize their relationship, special piercing, etc.)
-possibly registering her slave on slaveregister.com.
-possibly a collaring ceremony (a commitment ceremony in the bdsm community usually among close kinky friends. I have also known of a few couples who just held the ceremony themselves with no witnesses...just for them.)
-if they are in love, possibly also an engagement later.

The submissive male should be proud to be owned by her and the dominant Woman should be proud of owning him.

As one male said: “the collar is really a symbol of devotion to one whom you have agreed to partner with. The exchange of power between a Dominant and submissive is a mutually agreed upon unbalancing of control. It is a akin to the traditional wedding ring in non-BDSM or ‘vanilla’ relationships, except a bit sexier.”

Also when at bdsm events/parties, the collar represents that he is owned and not to be touched without his Mistress' permission. And collared subs are envied by other subs still searching for their Owner.

Feelings and meaning associated with the actual Collar:
"Many times Dominant gives the collar with pride. The Dominant might view the collar as a symbol of ownership or surrender of the submissive or slave. It can become a symbol of their union, agreement, and their dedication to a common goal. Submissive often wear it in devotion. Submissives can feel strength and security in the collar - thus in their power exchange. It can evoke in a slave the profound depth of service to their Owner. It can evoke feelings of their calling into slavery. And serve as a reminder of place and status in the power exchange. For others it might feel just as a toy - such as a flogger or something else used in a scene. And alternately a collar might feel like protection and love for others. It can be freeing to have that collar around one's neck because it means that you are not denying your authentic self."

Related links:
-A collar is more than strip of leather/cloth/chain
-What is a collaring ceremony? Includes sample collaring vows
-More links on collaring

A slave ownership tattoo with his Mistress' name
and a SlaveRegister number

A collared male slave with ownership tattoos in the kanji japanese writing language. The symbols at the top mean "submission". There's also the bdsm symbol. And the tattoos at the bottom mean "slave and servant". His Mistress also put a tramp stamp decorative design on his lower back too since as you can see, he's her slut.

As it should be

As it should be.
Every male guided and owned by a woman and him worshipping her.

Vampiress lurking

It was delicious. The way his body struggled and he finally gave way to my hold on him. Not that he'd be going anywhere anyway. I'm used to the male mortals attempting to struggle. It amuses me now. But he soon finds out my forceful grip on him is strong. he won't be going anywhere unless I say so. And now it is time to feast, I say as I sink my sharp teeth into his flesh...mmm...such a delicious neck. And his blood is delicious and sweet. I can hear his heartbeat. Hear him frightened a little. he doesn't know how much I will drink from him tonight. Will it be all of him?....quickly draining him as I feast on my meal with a hungry passion as I hear his mumbled moans and pleas. Or will I take just a little taste of him right now...sampling him...determining if this one will be best off as my slave...to take to my lair and do my bidding as my forever slave...the one I keep and drink from little by little over time. Ah...decisions...decisions. Who knew mealtime could be so complex? ;)

Happy Holidays

Have a happy holiday, everyone!
Here's some funnies for you.

santa kinky christmas bdsm video:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1GXajYAn_RI

funny vanilla holiday songs...

Achmed the dead terrorist christmas song:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UaxXhwxiaSI

Adam sandler's chanakah song:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zigPOkCytoU

Schweddy Balls (from saturday night live):
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ixWVNk9Bywo

you are my blank canvas

Mmmm...I love this photo. His back just looks like it's waiting to be scratched and marked by a domme like Me.

Kept and broken

current mood: harsher than usual. Thinking of harsh kidnapping scenarios with a reluctant male. A male taken and broken down by force.

"You didn't think I could kidnap you? Now whose feeling foolish? Yes, you'll learn your place in time or suffer the consequences. You need to understand...you are Mine now! I do not care what was before I enslaved you."

"Are you going to be obedient and tell me you're My slave or do I have to whip you again? I can see you're excited at the thought of being Mine. Your hard cock doesn't lie, boy."

Sissy photos

Some more photos off the web that I like. These are more geared toward sissies/crossdressers.

First makeup is applied...whether done freely or with a little forceful encouragement.

and you put on something soft and lacy.

and your Mistress has her way with you. ;)

"Open up, my little slut"

Vulnerability is sexy

I like this image because he looks vulnerable like he's a little afraid or he's new, and I love his pretty little lips. And that he's bound with everyday items like electrical cord. To me, it also looks like he's listening to his Mistress' footsteps as She approaches.

Her new property

Female centric versus male centric

"Ask not what your Goddess can do to you, ask yourself what you can do for your Goddess."
-Me

I think lifestyle femdom should be "Female centric" meaning the male should concern himself with how he can serve her better, rather than his thoughts being focused on his kinks mostly or what she can do to him. ('male centric'). All males who want to serve a Lady should remember that.

"Female Dominants are human and not to be considered an object for fantasy fulfillment. The Female Dominant is special and should be treated with adoration, servitude, obedience and respect. The needs and desires of the Female Dominant (Woman) comes first."

Related article:
The 12 traits of a good slave

Always show respect for Her both as a dominant and a Woman.

Now co-leader of Women's group

From 2002 to the end of 2009, I founded and led a Femdomme/malesub only munch in south florida. Now I've been asked to be a co-leader of a munch for kinky Women only. Women of any bdsm leaning...sub, switch and dommes. So I've accepted and am currently thinking of ideas for more monthly activities/events we could do. I have some ideas and we have some events being planned already such as a Holiday Masquerade party, but if anyone has any ideas, let Me know. (We may allow select males on occasion to an event if they're needed.)

Happy Halloween

I love Halloween since it's a chance to bring out costumes, decorations and creativity. Here's a photo of my kitchen stove on halloween one year in the past when I decorated each room of my home in a different theme and had a femdom party. The kitchen was a Witch's kitchen with an unusual, slithering supper being cooked up. =) Mmm...looks good, doesn't it?

Skills to learn

I think that sub/slaves should be continually learning and improving themselves. Learn skills to make yourself more valuable as a male sub to your current or future Mistress/Goddess. What skills should you learn? Well since every Woman is different, that really depends upon what the Woman in charge likes and is looking for in a servant. Below is an example of my wishlist for a sub's skills.

Some skills I personally would love in the PERFECT live-in male sub for me would be:
-cleaning and laundry (how to care for delicates)
-giving great massages (highly valued! especially back, neck and shoulder massage)
-spa pampering (pedicure, aromatherapy, lotions)
-sewing (I used to have a sub that would mend my garments)
-preparing cooked vegan food and/or raw vegan food. I have books. (Update: I became vegan on 2/1/15)
-making a nice breakfast in bed
-fixing things around the house/handyman skills
-tea service (I used to host femdom tea parties and hope to again in the future)
-building some things
-learn a language (ie: spanish, italian, etc. Useful for travel/vacations)
-male bellydancing (I have a website for this and instructional dvd). This can include actual bellydancing or a performance with fake big knives. (I used to host Femdom Harem parties for the Femdom munch I used to run and the males performed for the Ladies and they were enjoyable to watch.), or pole dancing to amuse and excite me.
-knows his way around a gym (keeps fit)
-how to grow sprouts at home (ie: sunflower sprouts, wheatgrass)
-how to change a flat tire; car maintenance
-being romantic and showing appreciation.
-poetry
-gardening (growing fruits and veggies, and watering flowers)
-learning how to be a good urinal for me as my live-in
-learning slave positions

I would want a personal submissive/slave of Mine to learn some new skills before and while in service to Me.

Mistress Lisa

Below me and taken

Not Me, but it does show one of my favorite positions to use a strapon cock or double ended dildo. On top, me holding him down with my body pressed up against him while I take him and get pleasure.

Steel collar and cuffs

I noticed this photo shows the locking stainless steel collar and matching wrist and ankle cuffs that I own for a male sub/slave to wear. So I thought I'd share it and some quotes.

"So long as man remains free he strives for nothing so incessantly and painfully as to find someone to worship."
-Fyodor Dostoyevsky

"Freedom was the desolate street i walked, until i was delivered to Her field." -anonymous

Submission

Some images I like and interesting quotes.

"Boyfriends need to understand that if women are worshipped, the world will be a better place.” -Nicole Kidman

"Submission is not thinking less of yourself...
but thinking of yourself, less." -anonymous

"Success means that we sleep at night knowing that our talents and abilities were used in a way that served others." -anonymous

Stocks to keep you in place

A piece of bondage furniture I like. I may have to get the local kinky craftsman to make me one of these.

Right now I own two individual stocks for ankles and wrists, and a custom made stockbox to put them in. I had them design something special according my box design. Sort of like this but better:

And I do enjoy it.

When Barbies get kinky

Some photos I found on the web in the past...

The real reason why Ken has a permanent smile on his face.

You never know what goes on in people's homes.

It looks like Barbie also has a crossdresser/sissy too. "Suck it, sissy!"

Link of the day: NerdFitness

Link of the day: NerdFitness.com
Want to get fit or need motivation to improve your life? Or do you want to get in the best shape possible for a current or potential Mistress? Check out that site since it has many motivational articles and success stories. It has certainly inspired me. It also is funny at times. You can find the top posts on that site at:
http://nerdfitness.com/blog/top-posts/

And Ladies, be sure to check out Staci's success story on that site:
http://nerdfitness.com/blog/2011/07/21/meet-staci-your-new-powerlifting-super-hero/

Paddling

Here's another photo from the web that I like. In my dungeon, I also have some paddles like hers.

Some boys just need a good incentive to behave better next time. I believe a punishment has to hurt so that it's remembered.
It also reminds me of a good quote I read online from a domme:
“To me, a sensual, loving domme recognizes her lover's need to be guided and reprimanded. Some men have way too much freedom in this world and run wild within that and they need a strong woman to remind them of what is good behavior.”

When was the last time you've been over a Woman's knee?

"Oh...Stop squirming, sissy,

this is for your own good!"

Some Funnies

Some funny things I came across that are related to strapons...

Sign says "Do not disturb. It's disturbing enough."

I like to keep kinky things around my house but this is a little too much even for me. =)

(I of course think she shouldn't stop but should make him her obedient bitch instead.)