Emotional maturity

I expect to be treated like a Queen actually. I do not allow just anyone to serve me. 

You have to be respectful, honest, emotionally mature, reliable, compatible and have integrity to be in my life. Honest to yourself and to me. 

Integrity and honesty are key. Without those, trust erodes. And trust is the foundation of any good relationship. 

You are responsible for your choices in life. 

Happiness is an inside job.

Related: 

-https://www.betterhelp.com/

Relationship iceberg

I'm seeking it all. The stuff below the surface is harder to find but I have patience for the right relationship. 

Crossdressing is the best

Whether you're looking male

or looking and being girly, I like them both. But dressing you up is definitely more fun.

That's one of great things about crossdressers. It's like 2 people in one. And I always love to dress up a sub and have them wear different sexy feminine things for Me. I love picking what you're going to wear. And then feeling you up like my sexy bitch. ;)

What is Demisexual?

I am demisexual.

I need emotional connection and trust first. So if you're physically attractive and focused on sexual things first then I'm usually not interested. I've rejected many people who were physically attractive, rich, had high status, fame or high level jobs. I'm not impressed by that. I'm seeking an emotional connection/bond, trust, reliability, unselfishness, kindness, emotional maturity, and compatibility. 

For more info on demisexual: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-demisexual-5082519

Queen to adore

There is no question of MY place, 

you simply have to know yours.

Kneel and honor your Queen. 

Always be open, loyal, honest, useful, obedient, consistent, reliable, polite, kind, and understand it's a privilege to serve me. Know that you are submissive and serving will bring you some fulfillment before contacting me. Show me that you want to please me and that you value me. 

Can you relinquish control, strive to obey and please? The more unselfish and submissive you are to me, the more attractive you become.

(Note: The photo of me is from 2010 but I do not look that different.)

Service oriented submission

A good article to read...

"Service Submission: What does service submission really mean? By female sub LunaKM.

"Service is any activity or function that you fill to make your dominant partner's life easier. This could be as simple as preparing their coffee, laying out their clothes for them or performing domestic chores."

"Service....While it's quite clear that the definition means that we are helping or doing work for someone, performing a kindness or favor, when we apply that term to D/s it tends to take on a more indepth role. Service, to me, definitely means I'm doing something for my Dominant partner, something that they find important to have fulfilled and have given me that honor to perform."

For alot more of her articles to read on service submission:

https://submissiveguide.com/skills/series/series-service-submission

For a male sub's perspective, "Some thoughts on domestic service from a male submissive":

https://submissiveguide.com/skills/articles/some-thoughts-on-domestic-service

Femdom strapon for the sissymaid

Oh it's time for my live-in sissymaid to take my strapon fem cock and give me pleasure while I take my bitch.

And taken again

and again.

The sissy is going to a be a lucky little slut.

Sissies like you should be fucked regularly!

(That is, when you're a good gurl for Me.)

You're going to love it. You need to be filled by Me.

Introvert versus Extrovert

I enjoyed my time in Disney World's Halloween party at the Magic Kingdom yesterday. (I loved the shows, trick or treating, decorations, etc.) But during the instances I was around alot of people all at once it made me feel overwhelmed and a bit uncomfortable at times. I did my best to lessen crowds for me though such as when everyone was watching the parade, I got treats and got photos taken when there was noone around except a staff member or two and no lines. But I am still feeling a bit overwhelmed from the party. Why? I'm actually an introvert. I can handle events with crowds on occasion but I definitely need time to recover.

I haven't been to the Magic Kingdom in a very long time because I do not like being near crowds often which usually happens there because of their much narrower pathways and popularity of that specific park.

Introvert versus extrovert...What's the difference? Introverts are not shy. They just have different needs than extroverts.

"You may be an introvert if:

• -You enjoy spending time alone
• -You prefer quality time with one or two people over spending time with bigger groups of friends
• -You need alone time to rest and recharge after a busy workday or period of activity
• -You can get lost in your thoughts easily and need time to process and think through most things

You may be an extrovert if:

• -You prefer spending your time around other people and dislike being alone
• -You like crowds, parties and other gatherings with lots of new people
• -You need quality time with others to help you recharge
• -You're outgoing, talkative and like being the center of attention

Typically introverts tend to enjoy more time to themselves, are very aware of their internal thoughts and recharge more in solitude. Extroverts can be just the opposite. Extroverts are often more outspoken, outgoing and absolutely love being around other people. That's what really fills them up."

Source: read full CNet article.

There can also be a spectrum where some people are a mixture of both. But I'm definitely introverted. Now after the big party, I just want to relax at home and recharge myself. Reading, painting, being creative in various ways, texting, writing, learning and meditation are some things I especially enjoy when I'm trying to recharge. 

The art of feminization

Something I enjoyed reading... 

"The art of feminization is a slow, gentle and seductive road leading us to the inner girl found inside all of us and the bliss that may be found there. Where the male, from any background is dressed in female attire, ranging from just wearing female undergarments to start with, showing them how nice it can be to feel soft pretty and girl like, to being fully dressed in very feminine attire, including make-up, hairdress and nail polish. Preparation is very important and the subject should be involved and included in the process. The picking and handling of his new undergarments and the laying out of them, a bath and his washing, the applying of oils and perfumes, all need to be planned and prepared before he is to be dressed properly for the first time. Most boys take on tasks, behaviours and roles that are overtly feminine, and adopt female mannerisms and postures in tasks such as sitting, walking, and acting in a feminine manner.

Costumes are sometimes domestic, but always silky, very feminine and a little seductive. The clothes may be from those of a traditional submissive female role, such as schoolgirl, a "sissy" maid, or a princess.
Feminization will also involve the conversion of a masculine name into a feminine name such as "Stephen" into "Stephanie", "Joseph" into "Josephine", or "Daniel" into "Danielle", as part of a constructed feminine persona.

The now gentle, dainty and submissive male may also be given feminine name that is different from his boy name, and referred to as "a good girl", "pretty little thing" and so on.

I have found in my time all have succumbed to its erotic wonder and most powerful state of bliss, for who can deny that the female is the loveliest thing of all things."

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I love seeing and feeling something silky, satiny, lacey, or pink on a sissy sub. You'll love it on you too. You'll be my pretty gurl.

I have a fantasy of a sissy sub bathing or taking a shower with feminine scented bath products, then dressing up in a pink nightie for bedtime and then taking the sissy to bed and making love to her as she takes my fem cock deep inside her "pussy" over and over as we both moan out in pleasurable ecstasy as we both enjoy each other.

I'm flexible to a point

I'm flexible. Sometimes I'll want you in a more feminine look when you're doing what I want and sometimes I'll want you in a more masculine look when you're doing what I want. (But you'll still wear panties.) I like a crossdresser's capability of having 2 looks in 1 person.

He serves and is useful. A useful male submissive is a good male. Plus the strength in his arms is put to appropriate use when doing his chores. And pleasing Mistress is always good.

Related past blog posts:
- Sexy male subs
- Feminine sissymaid

Respect and worship

As a dominant woman, I only like submissive males who are respectful towards me. So always behave accordingly.

Treat me the best if you want me around.

I love having my feet kissed, 

worshipped and massaged. 

What is service?

(An article that was written by someone else and was originally posted on my femdom munch website long ago. I think it's a good article for male subs to read. -Mistress Lisa)

What is "service"? 

"What do you mean when you offer to serve? What do you mean when you offer to BE of service? What do mean when you offer yourself in servitude?

Do the answers to these questions bring up visions of you being bound helplessly while being exquisitely tortured, teased to the verge of orgasm?

Do you envision some Amazon Goddess sporting a huge strap-on taking you anally?

Do you envision yourself prancing around in some French Maid Costume and being asked to provide oral service to a Mistress?

Do you envision some woman sqatting over your helplessly bound body "forcing" you to serve her orally?

Or do you envision being put over her knee and spanked like a naughty little boy?

Yes, nice visions aren't they? However, not one of those visions is the definition of "serve", "service" or "servitude".

Oh, I'm sure many subs consider them to be just that, but if you check your dictionaries you won't find any mention of French Maid Costumes, bondage, strap-ons, oral sex, or any other fetish you may enjoy.

In fact you won't find any mention of fetishes at all in the definitions.

Serve is defined as: 
-to work for, be a servant;
-to act in a specific capacity;
-to place food before, wait on;
-to be of assistance to.

Service  is defined as:
-the occupation or duties of a servant; 
-the act or means of serving; 
-duties performed as an occupation.

Servitude  is defined as:
-Submission to a master; slavery.

When you offer to serve a FemDomme, what you are offering (or should be offering) is the surrender of your control. You should know her well enough to trust her with your life. 

When you offer your servitude to her, you are telling her that you trust her judgment, you trust her to keep you safe from harm, you trust her to know what is best for both of you, you trust her decisions and desire to follow her orders and obey her in all things.

Your offer of service is your ability to let go of your ego and your free will (control) and allow her to control you.

Serving is, first and foremost, the act of making her life easier. It is compliance with all her desires, wishes, orders. Yes, BD/SM and fetish play, more than likely, will be included as part of the relationship. But overall, the D/s aspect of the relationship will be where you have turned your control over to her and you do as she says. It is about pampering her and catering to her.

Everyday life will be a part of this, for most people do have to work, bills do have to be paid, people need to see doctors occasionally, and dentists. Then there are family get togethers, family emergencies, social gatherings with vanilla friends and also with D/s friends. For the most part, life will seem pretty vanilla, but there will be one difference. IF you have truly submitted, then your actions will be measured by how your Mistress would feel about it. Your decisions will be based upon what you are allowed, or not allowed to decide without her permission. You will treat others with respect, but especially other women. You will consider that your actions would reflect back upon your Mistress, and therefore act in a manner that would make her proud of you. There may be other constant reminders, she may insist you wear panties under your clothes at work. But you will always remember that you have submitted to her and will honor that commitment.

How can you serve your Mistress? What are the ways? 

Here are some suggestions:

-Make sure her home is clean and neat.
-Make sure her clothes are clean and neat.
-Prepare her favorite foods for her.
-Prepare her bath.
-Rub her feet after she comes in from working all day.
-Offer her a massage if her day was very stressful.
-Offer to do her manicure and pedicure.
-Have her favorite music playing or find her favorite show or movie on TV.
-Surprise her with flowers.
-Serve her coffee as soon as she gets up in the morning.
-Ask what clothing she wants laid out for her.

These are just a few of the ways you can serve her once you have been trained in what she wants and likes. Don't be afraid to use your imagination to surprise her (provided of course that she has no problem with you doing this occasionally).

A happy, contented, pleased, relaxed woman is a woman who will then have no problem torturing you, using you, or even indulging you with a fetish or two that are your favorites...just to show you how much she really appreciates your service and submission to her. 

So, what are you offering?
-Personal service only (oral, massage, bathing)?
-Play sessions only (spankings, facesitting, strap-on, whippings, cbt) 
-Domestic service only (household chores, errands)? 
-OR are offering the whole package?

These are the things you need to be clear about in your own mind first and foremost before approaching a Mistress and offering to "serve" her. Along with how committed you wish to be to the D/s relationship, if at all.

- MsLyn"

(A collage I made a long time ago that shows subs being useful.)

Are you the right sub?

Who am I attracted to? I'm usually most attracted to some submissive crossdressers. (males who can appear masculine or dressed more feminine by me at different times.)

Whether you're crossdressed by me as my sissymaid or if you're in you're male mode, you'll be serving me by cooking sometimes and doing household tasks. Being submissive or a slave means being useful and wanting to please another person. To serve them and provide value through that service.  

My sub would have to be able to cook some plant-based meals (I have recipes) as well as clean, but cooking and cleaning is only part of what I would expect them to do to serve me. They may also be expected to serve me more intimately meaning that I will strapon fuck them as hard as I want when I want. And they will also be my BDSM sub to play with however I please. They will also provide massages when needed. Practice makes perfect. 

Are you single, under 45 and have what it takes to regularly serve me in Florida? I'm selective but am accepting applications. See my website. 

In the bedroom, your role is to be my gurl

You'll be locked up in chastity under my control, put in something feminine and sexy, and then...

Fucked regularly as my sexy submissive bitch. You'll do whatever I say to please Me.

(And maybe I'll let you out of the chastity sometimes. Just maybe. Lol.)

Sissymaid serving outdoors

This photo makes me imagine that it was a sissymaid serving me outside of my future matriarchal household or farm. A lovely thought. There would be more than one sub serving in the Female-led household. I always have things for subs to do. (Cooking, cleaning, laundry, helping to grow food, plant flowers, helping with future femdom parties I may host again, massaging me, serving me, etc.)

Some fresh herbs would be good to have. Many recipes I like require herbs. Now be a good subbie and grow me some herbs.

Goddess to serve

"Be sure to curtsey to me when entering a room, sissy. Now if you ever forget, I have special tools to deal with that nonsense. Now go be a good bitch and bring me some tea like a good little sissymaid."

(A photo of me from 3/8/13)

"Very good. I love seeing a sub be obedient and show that he remembers his training well. I expect great service from my sexy maid."

Respect

Show some respect. 

I like seeing you at my feet being humble and submissive to me.

Some duties of a sub

A few of the duties of a personal submissive...

Cooking meals

(I would love to have a submissive who cooks some good plant-based meals for me.)

Taking care of Mistress' strapon cock to please her.

Community goal

I came across this photo online.

Sissy subs serving dommes. 

It's just someone's still pro domme video clip image set up for one day only in order to make money for their website. But the photo reminded of my goal to one day have a real matriarchal household or residential community where submissive males (including crossdressers) and their dominant female owners live together to create a sense of community and to emotionally support one another and enjoy comradeship. And to be an everyday example of loving Female-led relationships and life.

Related: My FEM House.

Good morning, Goddess

"Good morning, my Mistress, my love."

(I love good service from a sub. Note: I do not drink coffee. I love tea or hot chocolate though.)