Wednesday, November 28, 2012

Sissy surprise kitchen encounter


Found this pic with its caption:
"Whitney spotted her sissified boyfriend going about household chores in the kitchen. He looked really impressive in his blonde wig and elegant outfit with matching high heels. Being in playful mood Whitney approached Stephanie from behind and hiked up the sissy’s skirt for a hard strap-on surprise she hid in her jeans. The naughty girl pierced the guy’s bum right by the cupboard before nailing him on the table."

I must say I do really love it when a sissy sub is in my kitchen. I imagine doing naughty things to him.

Monday, November 26, 2012

The Exchange of him

The Exchange
"Aah...I see you've brought your purse. Very good. The purchase price of him is still the same. He's higher than usual since his kidnapping took a little longer than usual and I've also customized him exactly to your liking. As you can see, he's fully shaven smooth, collared in red as well as has been fitted with red weighted heart nipple clamps (to match you in color). And I took the liberty of taking off his chastity device for now and have installed a remote control electroshock cock and ball harness for better initial control after his sale and during transportation to your private home."

"As discussed since you're a busy woman, I've gone ahead and trained him on the various techniques to better serve a busy professional Woman. He's now fully domesticated. He excelled in certain areas so you've picked a good one. Particularly his strong arms proved useful for scrubbing the house clean and doing yard work. Initially he talked back when ordered to do something but now he's fully voice trained and knows he must ask permission first to speak to his superiors. He's also been taught to cook meals well, do chores, prepare tea, serve meals properly, has learned all 26 slave positions, and has also been taught how to please a woman properly in the bedroom. He should do quite nicely in your home pleasing you. And once this monetary exchange is complete between us then we can retire to the branding room. I've gone ahead and obtained a branding iron with your initials. So all that you need to do is look him over and select where you want your mark placed on his body. I'll then restrain and gag him for the actual brand so there's no movement and he'll have a clear mark. Then your ownership of him is complete. I hope you'll use Mistress Lisa's acquisition services in the future should you need anything else. I'll be in touch in a week to make sure his performance is still up to our high standards. Should it not be, I'm sure we can find a good remedy for that."

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Sunday, November 25, 2012

Branding

As you may have read in the past, I like the idea of ownership marks. There are many types such as marking via tattoos, branding, piercings, etc.
I'm currently researching about branding. I'm still researching but so far I've read there are many ways to branding. The traditional way is strike branding, but there are new forms like electrocautery, and cell popping using a violet wand.

Tip: I've read from many people that one should not use a wire coat hanger fashioned into letters because coat hangers typically are coated in harmful chemicals and also the wire is thick so you won't get as clean a line as with other methods.

Interesting links:
Branding class at Fakir in San Francisco with many photos of brands:
http://www.fakir.org/classes/basicbranding.html

http://www.kinkymedical.net has a cheap disposable Cautery Pen with a fine tip in either a high temp or adjustable temperature.

I also found that there are some kinky people that make small custom branding irons for strike branding on people. I also read that steak branding irons ordered online can also work.

Also, I found a bdsm person (dragon_soul) in greensboro NC that teaches branding classes and also has done several brands on individuals. Here's a couple pics of a brand he did with ElectroCautery...

Bird brand he did on 5/19/12:
He wrote "At the earliest stage, immediately after the brand is done, it is imperative that burn cream of some type is used. The best product would be Silvadene, but it is prescription based. Over the counter burn creams work fine. The purpose of burn creams is to remove some of the residual heat that the skin in feeling, which will cause blistering around the burn area. Use burn cream for 4-6 hours after the brand is complete. If burn cream is not used, blistering can occur, which may distort the intended brand by causing excessive scarring."

The same Bird brand just over a month later on 6/23/12:
He wrote "Keep in mind that everyone heals differently...At the 3-4 week mark, your brand should be completely "healed". There should be no more scabbing, unless you messed with it or know you heal at a slower rate. This does not mean that the healing process is 100% complete though. That can take up to a year. The body will add skin layers to the area, and the thickness of the skin will increase. In some cases, people see this as a fading of the brand. With ECU brands, in particular, the finished line should be a flat, pink surface. Other brand types heal differently."
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Also one of my female friends had a large mark done on her that looked like an intricate brand but it was actually a cutting with a scapel. I'm not interested in that though since I do not like the idea of cutting and plus she said it was long and very painful. So now I'm also wondering if the ElectroCautery is alot more painful than the quick Strike Branding with an iron implement. (KinkPedia's page on branding)
In addition to a brand (which I like for permanency), I also like the idea of a tattoo also added because words and numbers are more easily seen with that.

Update of some additional comments:
- One experienced brander in california told me: "The key to a good brand is a good design. It needs to be simple. Complex designs tend to blob out as they heal. This applies regardless of whether they are done with cautery or strikes. Single strike (branding iron) brands rarely work because the "iron" is too thick and the brand spreads until they blob. Despite what some people say, I have yet to see a branding iron that left as clean a brand as can be done with multi-strike technique. I have repeatedly challenged those who make such claims to post pictures of the fully healed brand, usually a year later and to date, I have yet to get a reply. I wonder why.... LOL, That is why I recommend using someone who is well trained and/or a body mod artist."

- Another person told me: "I know of three Dominants who have done branding in Florida; one in South Florida, one in Lakeland area and one in Tampa Bay. I have seen all 3 brand using a cautery pen. I am certain any one of them would be happy to answer any questions."

- Another person said: "If you contact Fakir Musasfar, he can probably tell you of some trained branders in FLA. A lot of them aren't in the kink scene, but are body mod artists. When looking for someone to do a brand, ask to see their work at least a year after the brand was done. Brands tend to widen 3-5 times the width of the original trench. Designs that are too complex, too small, or done with tools that leave too wide a trench become a "blob". Most brands look good when they are done, but a year or so later have widened and blurred into a "blob". Do your research on body mod sites as well as kink sites and you are probably more likely to find skilled professionals who can do an excellent job for you."

- Site describing the different forms of body branding. 
-Video clips of branding using a Cautery Pen: Here, Here and Here.

Thoughts on chastity by a male sub

I read this awhile ago and enjoyed it. So I thought I'd share it.

“Confessions of an Unowned Slave: The Necessity of Chastity”
by a male sub


“Not only is Chastity at the core of my sub-male psyche, the absence of its application (when I am single) produces some of the most noticeable and frustrating elements to my single-ness. Chastity embodies the willing surrender of my fundamental male sexual urges and in fact, through a device even denies a fundamental right of all beings to experience pleasure in the body. In my version of male submission, I deeply need to surrender the burden of pleasure. I crave to surrender my own identification of sexual pleasure with ejaculation in exchange for denial as it results in expanded focus and emotional attunement to my dominant. The sharing of this denial with a Dominant is such a powerful elixir to bring me closer to her.

When the dominant enforces chastity whether short term or long, it places the sub in a highly aroused state of frustration where his only voice to express sexual pleasure is through vicariously identifying with his Dominant's sexual pleasure. In doing so he physically and psychologically is re-programmed to locate his own sexual pleasure in her whims, her needs and therefore pleasing her, achieving incredible focus and devotion to her, enabling his essential feminine sexual expression of pleasing 'other'. Not ironically, through frustration, this experience ultimately enhances the male's identity with his own sexual desires and spins him (me) into a cycle of humiliation and heightened desire to please my dominant sexually. Speaking for myself - I crave the sensations associated with chastity. Whether or not I could stay chaste for days, weeks or months and not abandon the experience out of frustration is unknown. Ideally, the Dominant would have the skills and love to guide the sub through the experience for as long she intuited was required for HER pleasure, his suffering and their shared growth.”


Your life could benefit from chastity.

Thursday, November 22, 2012

The Alternative Nurse

The Ad read:
"Promotional Thanksgiving offer: To give thanks to our community, we're giving away $300 free to the first 50 new males who sign up for a free physical at our new medical office."

 "Great. I see you've signed all the medical forms. Thankfully most males like you do not read the fine print in the ten page document. Let me clue you in. It says we can keep you as long as we like and do whatever we want to you. Oh this is going to be fun. Shall we get started?"

"At our medical office we believe in the old fashioned way of temperature taking...rectally of course. I hope you don't mind our new technological temperature testers. Anyway it'll help stimulate your semen production. We have to test your seed for virility afterall."

 "You're doing quite well. Just another hour to go."

"Or we do also offer a more hands-on approach for seed testing."
"Hold still. Not that you're going anywhere."


 "And now to check your prostate."
"Oh you have a tight hole and moan nicely. I may just have to make you my own special project."


 "My plans are first going to require extra lubricant."

"I slide my lubed cock slowly into you. Hold still while I take your temperature, slut."

"I know it's now after hours but I still need to show you to our shower facility so you can wash up. Follow Me."
"Aah...I told you that you'd be My slut. You like feeling my strapon cock thrusting in you, don't you, slut?"

Adoration

Some photos I like that remind me of adoration...

His adoration and submission makes her happy.

Song of the day: When You Kiss Me

Wednesday, November 21, 2012

Happy Thanksgiving

I hope you have a Happy Thanksgiving!

Enjoy the feasts of the day

or being the feast.

 Remember not to talk with your mouth full.

Ladies, remember to spank the turkey in order to tenderize it. =)

Do take some time to enjoy some stuffing.
 And everyone remember to give thanks
for all the blessings you currently have in your life.
What are you grateful for?

Tuesday, November 20, 2012

Things that do or do not impress me

Shania Twain's song "That don't impress me much" came on and so it had me thinking about what does or does not impress me.

Some things that do not impress me about a male:
- Money (any amount. I've had real millionaires offer to sign over everything to me if I was their lifelong Mistress but I cannot be bought. I actually think it's sad that they try and think that's the main thing to entice a woman. Certainly some people can be bought but not me.)
- Yachts (Many years ago, a professional yacht captain who travelled the world with rich clients offered to take me with him if I became his live on board Mistress. But I can't be bought or bribed. He was good looking but he had no sense of humor, had a boring personality and I had a feeling he didn't know what it meant to be truly submissive. He did send me pics of him visiting various countries so it was nice to see some great travel photos.)
- Fame (ie: I had a famous race car driver offer to be put in chastity and be my slave. he thought I would jump at the chance to basically own and control a famous person. But fame doesn't impress me. I know some people that are famous and they're not that different.)
- Expensive homes (in the past one male offered to buy me a home and another male offered to have me move in his multimillion dollar home in naples, if I became their lifelong Mistress. Again I cannot be bought. I have my own money and later bought my own home.)
- Cock size. (does not matter)

Things that could impress me about a male:
- His level of unselfishness (ie: giving of himself)
- Useful skills (especially ones that could benefit me such as massage, cooking, cleaning, etc.)
- Creative in some way (ie: art, music, theater, funny, recipes, etc.)
- How much of a gentleman he is. (ie: kindness)
- How attentive, thoughtful or romantic he is.
- If he can be slow and sensual at times.
- How emphathetic he is. (can think about something from the other person's perspective)
- How openminded he is.
- How trusting he is with regards to me.
- If he can write well (meaning no mispellings or run on sentences without punctuation).
- That he likes to learn or improve himself.
- If he does good deeds or shows he helps others. (ie: service)
- If he's a man of his word. (ie: honorable)
- How well or quickly he obeys me.
- How well he treats me personally. How well he pleases me.
- If he can be extremely open and communicative with me about how he's feeling. (ie: brave/trusting)

Song of the day: Shania's That don't impress me much.

Sunday, November 18, 2012

End of the World party

I recently got invited by some kinky friends to an "End of the World holiday dinner party" on Dec. 21. =)

Invite says: "Who would you rather spend your last day on earth with? What section of the hereafter would you like the best shot at? We would like to maximize your chances to spend eternity in the kinky section of the the afterlife by spending this night with us on Friday 12/21/2012. A special end of the world menu will be provided."

-It sounds like fun. I'll have to see if I can make it so I can get into the kinky section of afterlife. =) Now I'm wondering what an "end of the world menu" is and if the saying is true: "In the end, the one with the most toys wins." ;)

Anyway I intend to live forever and be indestructible...so far, so good. =)

Songs of the day: Louis Armstrong's What a Wonderful World
and Sinatra's My Way.

Saturday, November 17, 2012

Possessed

You are MY bitch now.

Tomorrow I will mark you as Mine.
 
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Modern Art

Current mood: Creative
(Don't try this at home. lol.)

Wednesday, November 14, 2012

Painting her toes

 He paints his Mistress' nails, like a good boy.
This can be a nice intimate moment to spend together.

Tip: I think most male subs should practice how to paint toenails well. A good way to do this is to practice on your own toenails. And sissies may just like to have their toenails painted pretty or in the same color as their Mistress' nails so they match. Another option for more discretion would be to paint with clear nailpolish, but I think color works best for seeing how well you paint nails.

Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Punishment versus Funishment

Punishment - "the authoritative imposition of something negative or unpleasant on a person in response to behavior deemed unacceptable by an individual." (this can be physical or non-physical punishment)

Corporal Punishment - "a form of physical punishment that involves the deliberate infliction of pain as retribution for an offence, or for the purpose of disciplining or reforming a wrongdoer, or to deter attitudes or behaviour deemed unacceptable. The term usually refers to methodically striking the offender with the open hand or with an implement." (source: wikipedia)

Funishment - "a pleasurable way of being punished, usually in a sexual way." or "A punishment that ends up being more fun than the thing you're being punished for doing in the first place."  (source: urban dictionary)

Tip for newbies:
Learn the differences. If your Mistress is physically punishing you because you have done something wrong and have disappointed her, then your mindset should be on asking for forgiveness, and focusing on humbly accepting whatever punishment she feels like giving to you so that she feels you have made amends and she can emotionally move past this transgression. When you're being physically punished for something, it is not the time to try to egg her on with verbal playfulness or basically try to turn the punishment into a funishment. That defeats the purpose of her trying to correct you. She must see that you have taken the transgression seriously and are sorry for any bad behavior. Then you can both move forward together with a good fresh start.

Some quotes I've read in the past:
- “To me, a sensual, loving domme recognizes her lover's need to be guided and reprimanded. Some men have way too much freedom in this world and run wild within that and they need a strong woman to remind them of what is good behavior.”
- "With my hand, I correct you, with my correctness I adore you."

Monday, November 12, 2012

Spanksgiving

Thanksgiving Spanksgiving is coming. Get ready!

Related link:
-Spanking music video

Sunday, November 11, 2012

Loving Female-led couple

Here are a few black and white photos I like that show closeness.

Suckling lovingly on the soft breast of his Mistress.

Content and at peace embracing his Mistress.
Feeling safe in her arms.


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Saturday, November 10, 2012

Get your ass in bed now

"Honey, come to bed soon. I'm horny!"

Some days it just isn't worth it to get out of bed.

Monday, November 5, 2012

Sissy makeup application and shoes

I think this photo is touching. A lovely sissy and his Mistress sharing a close moment together. He kneels humbly while she applies the makeup so that he can look his prettiest sissy self for Her.

Next for the sissy should be to get some sexy shoes.
DesignerShoes.com has shoes in large sizes.
See if you can find some heels you like.

Sunday, November 4, 2012

Strapon nights

A sexy photo I found that also has an amusing caption...

Daylight Savings Time


It's Daylight Savings Time. So if you live in the U.S. then make sure your clocks are all turned back one hour.
Time to sleep in an extra hour.

Saturday, November 3, 2012

Owned

Owned

Chastity is not only a great outer display of her ownership of him, it also demonstrates his trust, commitment, and total surrender to her.

This photo also reminds me of the times I used to have many femdom tea parties back when I led a femdomme/malesub munch for 8 years. There were several femdom couples there (most married) and most of the males were in chastity and scantily clad such as wearing thongs during the tea party while they served the ladies some tea and various plates of food. Although occasionally we did have a femdom couple where the male sub was in a sissymaid uniform, panties and chastity while serving tea and delicate finger sandwiches. Those were very enjoyable times.

The opposite of The Five Love Languages

As some of you may have read, my book recommendation in September was "The Five Love Languages: The secret to love that lasts" by gary chapman. In my blog post about it, I mentioned the love languages. I'd also like to mention that for any one love language there is also the hidden teaching that shows you what would affect your partner the most to not feel loved. Just by doing the opposite of their love languages.

For example, in that book the love language of "Words of affirmation" really means use "Words of positive affirmation" to help make your partner feel loved. So the opposite of that would be words of negativity, mean criticism, namecalling, or no words in response to a comment/question they're expecting an answer to, etc. ...Those would be the strongest way to make your partner feel unloved, unwanted, or sad. Whether the words are positive affirmations or negative words, a partner whose top love language is "Words of affirmation" is most likely hearing the words repeated in their head even long after you've stopped the conversation. Hearing your words (whether positive or negative) affects them more than other people. So choose the positive.

Opposites of the other 4 love languages:
-The opposite of "Gifts" would be never receiving any gifts...bought or done by hand.
-The opposite of "Acts of service" would be not helping your partner out or fixing anything.
-The opposite of "Physical touch" would be not touching your partner (in a way that's loving to them).
-The opposite of "Quality time" would be not focusing on your partner for a time period...not giving the person your attention or doing something together where you connect. 

Friday, November 2, 2012

Let your light shine.

One of my blog readers posted this comment on one of my blog posts:
"i've always felt that 'macho' is such a simplistic and shallow role. It takes courage to feel."

I agree. I believe acting "macho" is just that....an act. They're usually trying to overcompensate for something or they feel they have to put on such an act for their job (cops, ceo's, etc.) or another reason. I have been contacted by or have known many people in various professions and there are several males who act macho or tough when in reality in their soul, they're not.

It takes strength to rise above any initial macho reactions. To take the higher road. To let your light shine. To be who you are deep down in your soul. To choose love over hate/fear. Hate is easy. Be an example of good in the world. "To thine own self, be true."

"If it is not right, do not do it. If it is not true, do not say it." -Marcus Aurelius.