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10 things subs crave

I read this below article and agree with it. 

"After more than 15 years in the kink world, and through hundreds of coaching sessions with submissives, couples, and Dominants, I’ve started to notice a pattern:

What subs say they want (spankings, cages, orgasm denial…) is often just the tip of the iceberg.

Beneath the fantasies are deeper emotional cravings: the need to be seen, held, controlled, reshaped.

These are the desires most submissives don’t post in their bios… but whisper to me when they finally feel safe.

So let’s bring them to light.

1) Structure, Ritual, and Rules

Being told what to do doesn’t feel like control, it feels like safety.

Rituals like kneeling, collaring, daily check-ins, or permission to cum aren’t just hot. They’re grounding.

They give the submissive a role to embody.

2) To Be Seen Beneath the Surface

Subs crave a Dominant who sees through the polite mask and into the raw, unfiltered self underneath.

Not just the fantasy, but the parts they hide from the world. The aching, hungry, yearning layers.

And accepts them all.

3) Consistency and Follow-Through

Say what you mean. Do what you say.

Dom drop is real, but so is sub disappointment.

Many subs quietly crave the kind of Dominant who doesn’t just show up for the scene, but shows up for them.

4) Attention: Real, Undivided Attention

Not just sexual.

Eye contact. Voice tone. Presence.

That feeling of being the only one in the room.

When a Dominant is fully present, it sends one clear message: “You matter to Me.”

5) A Little Mystery, a Lot of Control

Subs don’t want everything handed to them.

They want tension. Tease. Anticipation.

A glance that says “I know something you don’t.”

A tone that makes them squirm.

6) Permission to Let Go

Control is exhausting.

Out there in the world, subs lead, manage, handle everything.

But here, with You?

They want to drop it all.

To be handled, guided, taken care of, and taken.

7) Being Challenged, Not Just Indulged

Yes, subs want to be used.

But the deepest ones want to be reshaped.

They want to be trained. Conditioned. Transformed. To be held to a higher standard, and rewarded when they rise.

8) Psychological Play

It’s not just about bondage or pain. It’s the mindfuck. The whispered command. The slow build. The denial. The way you can make them squirm without ever touching them.

9) Intimacy Without Judgment

Subs crave vulnerability.

To share their darkest urges, their weirdest kinks, their strangest thoughts, and be met with curiosity, not shame. They want to feel safe in their filth.

10) Aftercare That Feels Real

Yes, even the toughest, filthiest, most pain-loving submissive wants to know you’ll catch them when they fall. The blanket. The kiss on the forehead. The “you were so good for me.”

Subs may crave degradation, but they need to feel valued.

Final Thought: (to dominant women)

Submissives may come to you for control, for fantasy, for kink. But the ones who stay?

They stay for the feeling of being understood.

Because when a Dominant learns how to speak to the unspoken needs…

That’s when obedience becomes devotion.

—by Oxa | Certified Sex Therapy coach".

I agree with her. I think males especially need structure and ability to feel vulnerable and understood. But it also goes both ways in that a lifestyle dominant female like me needs certain things first to inspire me into giving my energy and desire to someone. I'm not seeking a one time thing. I need time and the mental connection to help create desire and someone who I can trust fully and who is always respectful and wants to surrender and who can be reliable. Otherwise I get turned off and do not want to give my energy to someone not worthy. If you want me to give 100% then show up and give 100%. I do not give time and energy unless I think it's deserved. Character matters. Bring your best self.

-Mistress Lisa

A good submissive provides good service.

Her new slave

It's time for Women to take over.

Learn your place and we'll get along fine. 

The new future of gynarchy

Patriarchy is ruining the world. So women got fed up, denied all males of pleasures or sleep, then shackled males, and took over. It's time for Females to run the world. 

You're now my slave.

You'll get used to it. 

You'll learn to serve her very well. 

It will give you purpose. 

And since cars are expensive and create pollution, some problem males who are not suitable to serve a woman inside their home were turned into the new transportation that's better for the environment. 

Femdom marriage

If you had a chance to have a Femdom marriage, would you take it? (The best marriages I've seen have been femdom marriages.)

Service

Males should be useful to Females...

Good boy!

(Not only is he helpful but it also helps to give him a sense of accomplishment and purpose.)

My related past blog post to read:

-What is "service"?

Mine

Some art I like...

"You belong to me now."

Surrender to Me

Some things I like...

Total control and ownership

Consensual non-consent...

Consent once and then you're totally controlled and owned.

I believe some males have too much freedom and too many options in life and they end up making the wrong choices. Mistress knows best. You're better off serving and pleasing Me daily. It will give you purpose, structure and the regular discipline you need. And you want to help make me happy. Your total submission will benefit us both.

iDecide law turned men back into their intended purpose

The new iDecide law reduced crime, wars, laziness, and increased productivity and happiness. 

men were always intended to worship and obey Women. (Ie: Women are the source of life). But via self abuse, some became lazy, disrespectful, and oppressive to their natural betters. But NOW, they can't touch it without permission and every day their love and desire to please and serve simply grows! iDecide has made everywhere like paradise!

The new iDecide law means all males must be in chastity and under the control of a woman who holds the keys. She decides what he does and when he gets released. And any unauthorized touching or pleasuring of his sissy clitty gets punishments specific to that male, such as revoking privileges or basic necessities. Males learn that it is she that decides everything. 

The women of the world are much happier. 

Obedience

I expect obedience.

Queen to adore

There is no question of MY place, 

you simply have to know yours.

Kneel and honor your Queen. 

Always be open, loyal, honest, useful, obedient, consistent, reliable, polite, kind, and understand it's a privilege to serve me. Know that you are submissive and serving will bring you some fulfillment before contacting me. Show me that you want to please me and that you value me. 

Can you relinquish control, strive to obey and please? The more unselfish and submissive you are to me, the more attractive you become.

(Note: The photo of me is from 2010 but I do not look that different.)

8 traits of a healthy and empowered submissive

The 8 traits of a healthy and empowered submissive:

1. Humble. Can accept feedback.

2. Teachable. Has a desire to learn and grow. Surrenders control. 

3. Communicative. And trustworthy. Trusting you can be honest and reliable.

4. Aware of limits and boundaries.

5. Aware of their gifts and talents. And aware of areas of opportunity (areas for growth).

6. Desire to serve and support.

7. Feels empowered in their role. It's consensual power exchange. 

8. Interdependent (not codependent).

This was my recap from watching the two part videos from Ms. Elle X on YouTube:

- "The good sub test: part 1" video

- "The good sub test: part 2" video

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I initially heard of her from coming across this image online:

You're meant to serve

Males are meant to serve Females. 

Controlled

 

You're better off under my control. We both know it. And I'll feminize you and train you to be useful and pleasing to me. I'll harness your submissive side to suit me. And you'll be lucky that I did. Afterall what's a better use of your free time? Serving me or waste it away on non-productive things that do not make good use of your natural submissive side that wants to please? It's a no-brainer. Serve a Goddess and bring a smile to her face.

Changed

 

If you come across me and become my sub who serves me regularly, your life will be changed. I will influence you, and also make you dress to my liking. You're my sub so that's my prerogative. You want to please me. And you will in return be valued.

Let go of control

 

That control that you have in your life....That's meant for the outside world such as at work. Put that aside when you come to me. I want you on your knees and surrendering control to me to help make me happy. To show me that you can be unselfish and giving. That you trust my guidance of you. You know you need to serve and please and be truly appreciated and respected for showing your submission to me when you're here kneeling before me. And no matter what I do or have you do, you will submit to Me.

In my world, your place is on your knees.

Submission

Do you know your place in a femdom relationship? Being MY submissive is a privilege.

And just because a male is kneeling submissively before me does not mean that he is weak. I truly appreciate him and his sincere submission, a desire to submit and please me. And he should appreciate me and my care, dominance and guidance. 

My philosophy regarding male submission is in this poem:

"His Gift"
by melody

To the outside world he is a leader of men..
a man of power....mind and body...
He holds the problems of the world in his hands..
He may be a doctor, a lawyer, a business man or a tradesman..
But when he comes to me..
I see the other side of him...
the one he hides within...
He comes to me on bended knee...
head down...hands open and extended up
In his hands he offers the greatest gift anyone could ever give..
Himself.... body, mind and soul..
This is a man that is truly full of inner strength...
one who is willing to be unselfish...
and be the property of another..
What a wonderous gift this is..
I am his Mistress..
and he belongs to Me.

Submission

Being a submissive has never been about being powerless. It is about the conscious decision to gift that power to the person you deem most worthy of it.

Know your place

A web photo I like...

"Know your place in my world. Of course, it's beneath my feet, little one. Just where you belong."