Adoration

Some photos I like that remind me of adoration...

His adoration and submission makes her happy.

Song of the day: When You Kiss Me

Happy Thanksgiving

I hope you have a Happy Thanksgiving!

Enjoy the feasts of the day

or being the feast.

 Remember not to talk with your mouth full.

Ladies, remember to spank the turkey in order to tenderize it. =)

Do take some time to enjoy some stuffing.

 And everyone remember to give thanks
for all the blessings you currently have in your life.
What are you grateful for?

Things that do or do not impress me

Shania Twain's song "That don't impress me much" came on and so it had me thinking about what does or does not impress me.

Some things that do not impress me about a male:

- Money (any amount. I've had real millionaires offer to sign over everything to me if I was their lifelong Mistress but I cannot be bought. I actually think it's sad that they try and think that's the main thing to entice a woman. Certainly some people can be bought but not me.)
- Yachts (Many years ago, a professional yacht captain who travelled the world with rich clients offered to take me with him if I became his live on board Mistress. But I can't be bought or bribed. He was good looking but he had no sense of humor, had a boring personality and I had a feeling he didn't know what it meant to be truly submissive. He did send me pics of him visiting various countries so it was nice to see some great travel photos.)
- Fame (ie: I had a famous race car driver offer to be put in chastity and be my slave. he thought I would jump at the chance to basically own and control a famous person. But fame doesn't impress me. I know some people that are famous and they're not that different.)
- Expensive homes (in the past one male offered to buy me a home and another male offered to have me move in his multimillion dollar home in naples, if I became their lifelong Mistress. Again I cannot be bought. I have my own money and later bought my own home.)
- Cock size. (does not matter)

Things that could impress me about a male:
- His level of unselfishness (ie: giving of himself)
- Useful skills (especially ones that could benefit me such as massage, cooking, cleaning, etc.)
- Creative in some way (ie: art, music, theater, funny, recipes, etc.)
- How much of a gentleman he is. (ie: kindness)
- How attentive, thoughtful or romantic he is.
- If he can be slow and sensual at times.
- How emphathetic he is. (can think about something from the other person's perspective)
- How openminded he is.
- How trusting he is with regards to me.
- If he can write well (meaning no mispellings or run on sentences without punctuation).
- That he likes to learn or improve himself.
- If he does good deeds or shows he helps others. (ie: service)
- If he's a man of his word. (ie: honorable)
- How well or quickly he obeys me.
- How well he treats me personally. How well he pleases me.
- If he can be extremely open and communicative with me about how he's feeling. (ie: brave/trusting)

Song of the day: Shania's That don't impress me much.

End of the World party

I recently got invited by some kinky friends to an "End of the World holiday dinner party" on Dec. 21. =)

Invite says: "Who would you rather spend your last day on earth with? What section of the hereafter would you like the best shot at? We would like to maximize your chances to spend eternity in the kinky section of the the afterlife by spending this night with us on Friday 12/21/2012. A special end of the world menu will be provided."

-It sounds like fun. I'll have to see if I can make it so I can get into the kinky section of afterlife. =) Now I'm wondering what an "end of the world menu" is and if the saying is true: "In the end, the one with the most toys wins." ;)

Anyway I intend to live forever and be indestructible...so far, so good. =)

Songs of the day: Louis Armstrong's What a Wonderful World
and Sinatra's My Way.

Possessed

You are MY bitch now.

Tomorrow I will mark you as Mine.
 

Related post:

-collar and its meaning 

Modern Art

Current mood: Creative

(Don't try this at home. lol.)

Painting her toes

 He paints his Mistress' nails, like a good boy.

This can be a nice intimate moment to spend together.

Tip: I think most male subs should practice how to paint toenails well. A good way to do this is to practice on your own toenails. And sissies may just like to have their toenails painted pretty or in the same color as their Mistress' nails so they match. Another option for more discretion would be to paint with clear nailpolish, but I think color works best for seeing how well you paint nails.

Punishment versus Funishment

Punishment - "the authoritative imposition of something negative or unpleasant on a person in response to behavior deemed unacceptable by an individual." (this can be physical or non-physical punishment)

Corporal Punishment - "a form of physical punishment that involves the deliberate infliction of pain as retribution for an offence, or for the purpose of disciplining or reforming a wrongdoer, or to deter attitudes or behaviour deemed unacceptable. The term usually refers to methodically striking the offender with the open hand or with an implement." (source: wikipedia)

Funishment - "a pleasurable way of being punished, usually in a sexual way." or "A punishment that ends up being more fun than the thing you're being punished for doing in the first place."  (source: urban dictionary)

Tip for newbies:
Learn the differences. If your Mistress is physically punishing you because you have done something wrong and have disappointed her, then your mindset should be on asking for forgiveness, and focusing on humbly accepting whatever punishment she feels like giving to you so that she feels you have made amends and she can emotionally move past this transgression. When you're being physically punished for something, it is not the time to try to egg her on with verbal playfulness or basically try to turn the punishment into a funishment. That defeats the purpose of her trying to correct you. She must see that you have taken the transgression seriously and are sorry for any bad behavior. Then you can both move forward together with a good fresh start.

Some quotes I've read in the past:
- “To me, a sensual, loving domme recognizes her lover's need to be guided and reprimanded. Some men have way too much freedom in this world and run wild within that and they need a strong woman to remind them of what is good behavior.”
- "With my hand, I correct you, with my correctness I adore you."

Spanksgiving

Thanksgiving Spanksgiving is coming. Get ready!

Related link:
-Spanking music video

Loving Female-led couple

Here are a few black and white photos I like that show closeness.

Suckling lovingly on the soft breast of his Mistress.

Content and at peace embracing his Mistress.
Feeling safe in her arms.

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-strict but loving

-tender moment

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Get your ass in bed now

"Honey, come to bed soon. I'm horny!"

Some days it just isn't worth it to get out of bed.

Sissy makeup application and shoes

I think this photo is touching. A lovely sissy and his Mistress sharing a close moment together. He kneels humbly while she applies the makeup so that he can look his prettiest sissy self for Her.

Next for the sissy should be to get some sexy shoes.
DesignerShoes.com has shoes in large sizes.
See if you can find some heels you like.

Related links:
-Why I like sissies
-Some items in my sissy closet
-Crossdressing, purging and being yourself
-The sissy secret service

Strapon nights

A sexy photo I found that also has an amusing caption...

Daylight Savings Time

It's Daylight Savings Time. So if you live in the U.S. then make sure your clocks are all turned back one hour.

Time to sleep in an extra hour.

Owned

Owned

Chastity is not only a great outer display of her ownership of him, it also demonstrates his trust, commitment, and total surrender to her.

This photo also reminds me of the times I used to have many femdom tea parties back when I led a femdomme/malesub munch for 8 years. There were several femdom couples there (most married) and most of the males were in chastity and scantily clad such as wearing thongs during the tea party while they served the ladies some tea and various plates of food. Although occasionally we did have a femdom couple where the male sub was in a sissymaid uniform, panties and chastity while serving tea and delicate finger sandwiches. Those were very enjoyable times.

The opposite of The Five Love Languages

As some of you may have read, my book recommendation in September was "The Five Love Languages: The secret to love that lasts" by gary chapman. In my blog post about it, I mentioned the love languages. I'd also like to mention that for any one love language there is also the hidden teaching that shows you what would affect your partner the most to not feel loved. Just by doing the opposite of their love languages.

For example, in that book the love language of "Words of affirmation" really means use "Words of positive affirmation" to help make your partner feel loved. So the opposite of that would be words of negativity, mean criticism, namecalling, or no words in response to a comment/question they're expecting an answer to, etc. ...Those would be the strongest way to make your partner feel unloved, unwanted, or sad. Whether the words are positive affirmations or negative words, a partner whose top love language is "Words of affirmation" is most likely hearing the words repeated in their head even long after you've stopped the conversation. Hearing your words (whether positive or negative) affects them more than other people. So choose the positive.

Opposites of the other 4 love languages:
-The opposite of "Gifts" would be never receiving any gifts...bought or done by hand.
-The opposite of "Acts of service" would be not helping your partner out or fixing anything.
-The opposite of "Physical touch" would be not touching your partner (in a way that's loving to them).
-The opposite of "Quality time" would be not focusing on your partner for a time period...not giving the person your attention or doing something together where you connect. 

Let your light shine.

One of my blog readers posted this comment on one of my blog posts:
"i've always felt that 'macho' is such a simplistic and shallow role. It takes courage to feel."

I agree. I believe acting "macho" is just that....an act. They're usually trying to overcompensate for something or they feel they have to put on such an act for their job (cops, ceo's, etc.) or another reason. I have been contacted by or have known many people in various professions and there are several males who act macho or tough when in reality in their soul, they're not.

It takes strength to rise above any initial macho reactions. To take the higher road. To let your light shine. To be who you are deep down in your soul. To choose love over hate/fear. Hate is easy. Be an example of good in the world. "To thine own self, be true."

"If it is not right, do not do it. If it is not true, do not say it." -Marcus Aurelius.

Shower Twister

This looks like fun...

Vampires

The Witch themed Halloween Party I had for female kinksters in mid October went very well. It was lots of fun and everyone loved my many decorations in my home. (I'm leaving them up for October). The next halloween party I'm decorating for is a Vampire Party. In that spirit, here's some vampire pictures I like...

Sharing a kiss. Mmm...deliciously sweet.

Vampire Queen Akasha biting into Lestat while in the tub.
(A short sensual scene from "Queen of the Damned" film)

Felt like a rock star

I had a great time on Saturday night at the co-ed RockStar Party for kinksters that one of my friends had. There were some great costumes, food, sexy fashion show, fun time taking pictures, also one of my female friends did a drag show performance for us all, and more. Also some individuals separately came up to me during the night and told me that they're a fan of mine. I initially thought they meant they were a fan of the male rockstar character I dressed up as, but then they said there were actually a fan of me in life as Mistress Lisa. So that was a nice surprise. I'm used to people emailing me saying they're fans of mine but I've never had both men and women come up to me during one night telling me their fans and complimenting me alot. It made me feel like a real rock star. =)

4 presidential candidates on most ballots not 2

I do not usually talk about politics. But personally I find it a bit disturbing that in America currently people know of and are talking as if there are only 2 presidential candidates.(Romney and Obama). In fact there are more than that. On most of the ballots in America there will also be:
- Gary Johnson
- Dr. Jill Stein

Either one of these presidential candidates could win the election if enough people vote for them. (Personally I like both of them). The reason most people think that there are only 2 candidates (Romney and Obama) is because what Americans are told or shown is being controlled. For example, Dr. Jill Stein tried to attend and participate in the presidential debate that was going to be aired on TV but she wasn't allowed in. In fact, she was arrested and handcuffed to a chair for 8 hours for trying to enter the grounds of the debate (along with her female vice-presidential running mate). She should have been welcomed in because she will be on 85% of the ballots in America. But the televised debates are being controlled by a group called the CPD, which is a puppet of and serves the interests of the Democrats, Republicans and the big corporations that fund both of them.

Check out alternative debates:
-Oct. 23, 2012: Presidential debate between presidential candidates Gary Johnson, Jill Stein, Rocky Anderson, and Virgil Goode. Hosted by Larry King. It was not on tv. Broadcasted online by freeandequal.org. Available here.
-Nov. 5, 2012 at 9pm EST: Final presidential debate online between Libertarian Party candidate Gary Johnson and the Green Party's Jill Stein. At that time, it will be broadcast live online at freeandequal.org/live and RT America's YouTube channel. (For a way to tell MSNBC to air this debate on TV, click here).

Another tip: If you can, I also recommend voting by absentee ballot because the electronic voting machines can be quickly and easily tampered with.
Note: The 2012 presidential election will also be the first time in history were exit polls (after voting electronically) are not conducted in every state.There will be no way to verify votes.

11/7/12 Update:  Google's Results of the election for all candidates.

Her male bitch

She takes him for a ride...pulling his hair to stop him.

He's her bitch and they both look very happy in their roles.

A slave should be a source of joy for his Mistress and through this he can derive great joy himself. He should be happy to be of whatever use his Mistress makes of him.

Mind Over Matter: The law of attraction

The mind is a powerful thing so expect good. Everyone has power since it's a universal law. The Law of Attraction says "thoughts become things".

Even if you do not understand it or believe it, it's still working in your life. If you say "I do not want this, this and this to happen to me again". Guess what will happen. Exactly what you say you do not want to happen to you. Because you're concentrating on that, it's in your mind, you worry that the bad things are going to happen again. You get a negative or defensive vibration to you and then you attract more of the same. If you consistently focus on a good thought and truly feel it, then it will become your reality.

It goes for everything you think about, so be conscious of what you think about, what you concentrate on, what you beleive, what you expect. Expect the good. Lots of good positive things in your life. Now I know that good might not be your experience from the past, but let that go. Think only positive things. Expect what you want...to come to you. If you put enough strong good feelings into it and you consistently do so and feel postivie and do not allow negative thoughts (or what you do not want) to come into your thought patterns, then what you want will eventually come to you. Like attracts like. This is the "Law of Attraction".

It is important to stay positive. In the world, there is negativity. Do not allow people or things that are negative to bring you down...and do not belive that more negativity will be your experience. It does not have to be. Think positive. Expect positive things. Think of yourself as a magnet. Anything you think about strongly or expect, you'll get. Good or bad.

Tips:
-Raise the vibration of how you feel. Focus on the good in life. Radiate positivity.
-One good way to focus on the good is to have gratitude for what you do have. Be appreciative. Be thankful.What are you thankful for in your life?
-Always choose love over hate/fear.
-Visualize your goal as already having come true. (And creating a vision board with photos of your ideal life could help.)

I've been consciously studying about the Law of Attraction for a little over a year now. I'm still practicing it and learning how to consistently improve my thoughts/vibration. I actually started learning about the law of attraction initially because I noticed all the good things I mentally focused on were coming true. Some pretty amazing instances so then I went to the bookstore and came across the book title that seemed to reflect what was happening: "Ask and it is given: Learning to manifest your desires." So I now continue to learn, practice and test it out. I know it works.

The law of attraction is also thoroughly discussed in the movie "The Secret" and admittedly practiced by some successful people such as celebrities. Here's some of the youtube Videos I've watched related to the law of attraction.

"Your words and thoughts have physical power." –Will Smith

Oprah tells how she used The Secret

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The Secret: View the first 20 minutes of the film.

Deletions from the film, The Secret.

The feeling is the prayer (Gregg Braden talking)

 
What are you thinking about most of the time? (Anthony Robbins)

Related quotes:

•  "A person is what he or she thinks about all day long." -Ralph Waldo Emerson.
• "I am the greatest. I said that even before I knew it was." -Muhammad Ali, first and only three-time lineal World Heavyweight Champion. Named "Sportsmen of the century".
• "Nothing is Impossible. The word itself says "I'm Possible!" -Audrey Hepburn.
• "Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life's coming attractions." -Albert Einstein

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Also related to energy: Qigong

Something hot in the kitchen

Males cooking in the kitchen are so fucking hot.

Vertical Footrest

Here's a cute little drawing I like...

Male in panties

Ooh...A male in panties is so sexy to Me! Especially if there's some sexy lace in the photo or if he's wearing something sexy and taking a photo to especially please Me or entice Me. Mmm...love it.

Why we love submissive men

I read this online posted by a domme overseas and agreed with it. I thought it was well written. So I'm sharing it. I've always thought submissive males were the strongest males. Here's the text I read:

"Why we love submissive men...

It is with great respect to submissive men that I attempt to write a respectful dissertation on this topic. This is just one girl’s opinion and in no way is meant to define or offend anyone.

I feel that many of you have been wrongfully classified as weak men. You have not had any role models as you’ve walked this path. Somewhere along the line, you’ve been told that submission in a man is weak. It is my humble opinion that you are the strongest of men…

A truly submissive man is a protector, a servant, a planner, as well as a graceful reflection of his Mistress. He is conscious that his appearance is reflection of her and therefore endeavors himself to always be put together. He is a silent reflection of her strength and a supporter of her dreams and goals.

The greatest submissive men act with dignity, in fact they act with the dignity of the best butler…anticipating her needs because they know her. They know she drinks a cup of tea before bed and strive to have it waiting for her when she retires.

He strives to posses the best of manners, and what I mean by this goes way deeper that what the general society believes. He pulls out her chair every time, no matter the location. He stands when she leaves the dinner table…even when they are alone. He realizes that his manners are a reflection of his deep gratitude for her.

The greatest of submissive men are gentlemen first. They are honorable… they don’t act out in order to seek what might be an enjoyable punishment. In fact, a punishment is never enjoyable…it’s a failing to please their Mistress. And it’s never fun.

The fun comes not only from the deep service they provide, but also when they are alone…with his Mistress and a scene evolves. She knows him well and because he is indispensible to her, she will make some of his fantasies he has come true.

She values him tremendously. He is not less than her, but an extension of her. He is invaluable because even though he is submissive to her, he is not submissive to everyone. He serves her, and in that service comes a sense of joy and purpose. It also defines him as a man…a strong man…submissive man."

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Related links:
- Masculinity and submission
- The 12 traits of a good slave/husband

Masculine Sensitivity

“When men accept the sensitive side of themselves, they come alive.”- Anaïs Nin, In Favor of the Sensitive Man and Other Essays. 

A good balance of masculine and feminine energies is key.
You can still be a masculine guy and have a loving sensitive side too.

Song of the day:

"In your eyes" by Peter Gabriel. View the music video below from the 1989 film "Say Anything":

Such a great song and movie.

Her strapon sissy slut

"Get on the bed now!"

(She takes what is Hers.)

"You want to feel me inside you, don't you?, My little slut."

Related links:

-Why I like sissies (crossdressers)
-Strapon loving (drawing)
-Her smile and pegging (and a photo of my strapons)

My next party

Current mood: Wicked but fun. =)
Because I've been busy decorating my home in a spooky look for my next party which is a Wicked Witch themed Halloween party for the kinky Women's group I co-lead. All ladies will be dressed as sexy witches.

Here's an invitation I put together for my kinky Witch party.

Barbie on the weekend

 The latest Barbie in the Barbie "I can be..." series is that she's an Architect. That's a tough job at times. Maybe they should start showing how Barbie spends her weekends relieving some stress with her boyfriend Ken and others.

At home with Ken after he made her breakfast in bed.
Ken is such a good slut for Barbie. =)

In the dungeon with feminized Ken on his knees.(kendra)

 A relaxing day out shopping with her girlfriends.

 After a night of alot of partying with her girlfriends.

Spanking her fitness trainer, G.I. Joe, for overworking her.

Punishing him at the beach.
"Joe, if you're so strong. Let's see you get out of this one.
Yeah, I didn't think so."

All worked up, Barbie returns home to find Ken.

Related link:
-When Barbies get kinky