Need to be pampered

Current mood: I had a long day and need to be pampered. Some examples of that include: massaging my body from head to toe with some scented lotion and kneading any tension out of it...relaxing Me, bathing my feet and applying new nail polish, fanning Me like an adoring servant, feeding me grapes or strawberries, putting on soft music to relax me, adoringly kissing my feet while I enjoy a beverage you've brought to Me, etc. Hmmm...I wonder if you can think of any other ways to pamper Me?

Humbled slave

Here's a lovely sepia toned photo of a humble looking slave presenting himself. I'll have to add that position to my slave positions list. But my favorite is still seeing a slave in the kowtow position when he's kneeling before Me offering himself to Me.

On Ownership

Here's an article I enjoyed reading on the topic of Ownership.
"What does it mean to be owned by, literally to be the property of another human being? By definition, this means that one is that person's slave. Normally, this is considered to be among the most ignoble and undesirable states in which one can find oneself; but what of the case when one freely and willingly gives oneself, body and mind, heart and soul, to one's Mistress, to serve, obey, worship and adore Her, as Her property, Her slave? Perhaps paradoxically, for a submissive in service to a truly worshipful Mistress, this can be simultaneously one of the most humbling, even degrading, yet also ennobling experiences imaginable.

When one becomes the property of a superior Mistress, there exists a bond of trust and communion in which the slave almost, as it were, becomes a part of the Mistress, and thus, in some sense, partakes of Her beauty and Her glory, Her superiority, while at the same time remaining Her lowly, humble slave, undeserving of the high honor even of basking in the glory of Her presence. There is something ineffably profound about the seeming contradiction between the humiliation of knowing that one is utterly Her slave, not worthy even to lick the ground beneath Her glorious feet, and the exaltation of being allowed by Her, at least figuratively, to do so anyway."

MY thoughts: I do agree with some of it. I do think it can be humbling, but I do not think it's degrading for a male to serve. I think a slave should be honored to do whatever the Mistress wants for it pleases Her. And he should strive to always please Her. (yes I think something might feel a bit degrading or humiliating at first if the slave isn't used to it or isn't focused on being grateful for the chance to please. But he should learn to focus more on Her wishes and accept his role). On another note, personally I believe that if a slave is truly lowly or undeserving of basking in My presence, then I certainly won't own him. I think some of the above text/opinion was based on fantasy stereotypes (oh the lowly slave and his Mistress) or prodommes that will see almost anyone. But in reality, a lifestyle dominant Woman like Myself who is in it for real life relationships has standards. I want to be with someone who I like, care for, can respect and someone I think is worth owning and taking the time to fine tune to my liking, to discipline, guide and spend time with.

Regarding the photo I found and posted, I do think it's hot how the roles are clearly defined in the photo and that she definitely looks more powerful than him and beautiful. (and I too have used males as human furniture before. But I wanted to use them because I liked them as everyday people too). I do think that relationships work best when there is a clear leader and a clear follower such as in a loving, Female-led relationship. There seems to be less conflict that way since final decisions are up to the Woman. And since as a domme, I like to know everything about my slave including his deepest secrets and fantasies then it helps to create a deep bond and alot of trust. A deep connection. And isn't that what alot of people are searching for?

Special

I only allow submissive males in my personal life. And believe Me, he does have to be special and also know his place in My world. My time is precious and I do not give it to just anyone. All men need something greater than themselves to look up to and worship.

US Females' improvements in education and society

Interesting:
-Young Women's Pay Now Exceeds Male Peers'
-Girls are exceeding boys in school. Almost 90% of valedictorians are girls, college students are now almost 60% female and growing.
-More women than men got PhDs in 2009 and women have long outnumbered men in earning master's degrees
-Between 1995 and 2004, there was a 30% increase in the number of science and engineering BAs awarded to female US citizens, which is 2.5 times the growth of male American citizens. The number of physics BAs grew 36% for women, 8 times the increase for men. In engineering, the number of degrees grew 19% for women even as it dropped 1% for men. The number of electrical engineering degrees grew 35% for women which is 1.6 times the growth for men. Now I admit that electrical engineering is a field where there aren't alot of women but a 35% growth is definitely good. (source: Education Week, edweek.org)

My blog anniverary

I just noticed it's been a little over a year since I started this Femdom blog of Mine. I was iffy when I first started it but now I'm glad I begun it in September 2009 since I've enjoyed writing in it. So happy anniversary to my blog. =) And thanks to all those who visit and post comments.

Fetish night

I had a great time at a fetish party last weekend at a club. I just love their atmosphere especially the two large bondage spiderwebs made out of thick metal chains. I want to put someone on one of those in the future so he's my helpless prey. Come closer and come into my web, my delightful little victim. ;)

This Goddess' legs and feet

Imagine kneeling before Me looking up at Me
for permission to kiss My divine feet gently with your lips.

Practice makes perfect, sissy

Lick My shoes, little sissy,
and then get your mouth on My cock where it belongs.Suck it good with your pretty lips. It tastes good, doesn't it?

Your Place

We both know where you belong.

Nipple boy

Mmmm...yummy. Such a delicious photo. It's good to see an attractive masculine male sub portrayed for a change. (yes I like sissies/crossdressers but I also enjoy a male's masculine looking sub side too). He looks strong, self assured and sexy and enjoying the pleasure/pain of playing with his nipple which you do not usually see in photos, usually it's a woman playing with her nipples. Oh I can imagine sitting back and watching him put on a little show for Me. tempting Me. stirring up desire. And then after awhile when he least expects it and when his eyes are closed, I pounce on him like a lioness or sexy vampire, take off one of the clothespins and grasp his nipple with my own teeth, enjoying him, devouring him and causing him to wince a little in pain. Mmmm...such a teasing little prey. I can imagine tasting his flesh right now.

Boynapped

Since I'm in between slaves right now and available, my desire to kidnap a male is growing stronger. It would certainly be faster than talking to and interviewing various male subs and trying to find one who is compatible, available, sincere, attentive, relocatable and unselfish. Aah I fantasize about just taking what I want and forcing him to do as I say always. He'd be trained according to My needs and whims."That's it, boy, lick slowly and sensually like I've trained your tongue. Worship your Goddess for you truly belong to Me."

Suck it, Sissy

A 3d illustration that I like showing a sissy with his ass plugged, he's partly feminized and kneeling before his Domme. Maybe he's a "male wife" about to suck his Mistress' cock at night after she's come home from a long day. "You know your duty, sissy. Get your mouth on my big cock now! Do not keep Me waiting."

Useful while she enjoys herself

As a male, you should make yourself useful to a dominant Woman, even when she's been doing something else and not paying attention to you. Here are some of the possible ways...As a seat while she's enjoying tv.
As a shoe cleaner or foot massager. As a foot rest while she's on the computer.As her obedient sissymaid taking care of the menial tasks around the house. And more. Remember there are other males wanting to be in her service so be sure to make yourself useful and show your gratitude by serving Her well.

Beatings commence

Today's mood: sadistic. I really feel the need to get my hands on a leather strap and beat someone to cause some pain. And then force them on their knees and make them gag on my strapon cock until tears come to their eyes. It would make me feel better today.

Kinky Luau

I had a great time last weekend. I went to a Kinky Luau hosted by a domme friend of Mine. Lots of people showed up. About 50 and there was a big buffet of tropical inspired food to eat, drink and also wonderful desserts including tropical looking cupcakes. I also enjoyed a hula lesson in her dungeon and met more wonderful people. (a handful of people were also swimming naked in the pool. It's interesting to talk to friends while they're naked)

And since it was a few hours away from me, I stayed overnight. Then an old male sub friend of mine asked to sleep in the spare trundle bed near mine at my friend's house. So I let him sleep in the same room as me but he was made to sleep in a spandex sleep sack with ankle and wrist restraints on inside the sack and I also put a chain around the outside of the sack so he couldn't get away. =) Then I also tortured his nipples a bit and also sat on him. It was fun. Then in the morning he gave me a nice tongue bath on my toes. (We're just friends now but he did serve me one day as a sissymaid years ago.). Anyway, overall I had a fun time at the kinky luau and they said they're going to have them every year. =) Maybe next time I'll have a slave I can dress up and bring with Me.

Some desserts from the Kinky Luau...cupcakes and cake.

Someone later ate the nipples off the cake so that was funny. And I hope next time someone brings a submissive male version of the cake too.

Kiss My foot

Humble yourself before Me and kiss My feet as you should.
(ps-thanks to the admirer who sent Me those heels off my wishlist)

Submissive magazine ad

The guy in this magazine ad's photo looks submissive to Me. It looks like he was taking care of his Mistress' feet and now he's either listening attentively to her or watching her drift off to sleep. This photo also has a soft romantic feeling to it with the low lighting and him adoringly watching her. I wish more ads had males looking submissive towards Women.

Discipline

Some days you just need to be reminded of your place and taken down a notch. If I get any indication of insubordination, I'll nip it in the bud (or butt) before it has a chance to get worse. Regular discipline is needed and good for a male.

Shopping addictions

Okay I realize and fully admit I have a couple shopping addictions.

- I'm addicted to shopping for sexy panties to put on a male/sissy. (I do not care if they're masculine guys or like to be fully feminized. When a male is serving Me in My home, he's in panties. Just because I like them and they look sooo much better than male underwear. ewh. Bring on the panties that look and feel good. =) )
- And I'm addicted to getting sexy shoes. (frankly My feet look great so how could I not put them in something sexy to match? =) )

10 Quotes

Here's 10 Quotes I Like:
1. "If you look towards the sunshine, you will not see the shadows."

2. "Always do what you say you will do."

3. "Judge a man by what he has done; not on what he says he is going to do." ~Henry Ford

4. "A person who is nice to you but not nice to a waiter is not a nice person"

5. "Submission is not thinking less of yourself... but thinking of yourself, less."

6. "Success means that we sleep at night knowing that our talents and abilities were used in a way that served others."

7. "Being your slave, what should I do but tend upon the hours and times of your desire?" ~William Shakespeare (Sonnet LVII)

8. "To be nobody but yourself, in a world that is doing it's best night and day to make you like everybody else is the hardest battle any human being can fight, and never stop fighting." ~E.E. Cummings

9. "I told my wife that a husband is like a fine wine; he gets better with age. The next day, she locked me in the cellar."

10. "Only through complete surrender to a Woman can a man know peace, contentment, and happiness."

Sundown

Tonight's colorful nighttime sky as seen from my backyard. Southwest florida has some of the most colorful sunsets I've seen. The sunset looks even more beautiful when seen from the beach.

New songs I like

"Time is running out" by Muse. Sounded sexy to me. Mentions the words "asphyxiated" and "smother". nice.

I also like Muse's song called "Undisclosed desires":

Drink up

As My live-in slave, you'll learn to drink from Me whenever I want. I expect your mouth to remain open until I'm done with you, understood? That's it. Keep swallowing, slave, you hear Me tell you. And be sure to say Thank You afterwards. I bet it'll warm your mouth and belly right up. ;)

Focus

See...I told you that you'd learn to focus on Me more.

My dungeon goodies

Here's a peek into some of My dungeon goodies...

One of the walls in my dungeon contains lots of implements for discipline & punishment, and restraints.

and recently I found a fantastic deal on a Vac Bed and it arrived 2 days ago and had me smiling all day. Here's a photo of it temporarily set up in my spare bedroom after I put it together. It's a Vac Bed made up of latex rubber and when connected to a vacuum it sucks/vacuums the air out and keeps the sub immobilized in it. It has a hole for the mouth for breathing and a hole around the genital region. In this photo, I've put my new "inflatable ball gag breathing tube" in the mouth hole and a dildo in the genital hole so you can see it.

I have a lot of experience with vac beds.
and here's a photo I found on the web of someone in one...
It's going to be fun to play with.

Male Wife

I'm a busy woman so I enjoy the idea of having a "male wife". I've been hearing about this concept/phrase lately. Now as I understand it, this does not necessarily mean someone feminized. But mainly this is about the clearly defined role of the male in the household. He takes care of the home such as doing duties such cleaning, laundry, cooking, dishwashing, ironing outfits, clipping coupons, sweeping up, etc. He would also service Her sexual needs (such as licking and sucking her strapon cock or her clit) whenever She wants. Like a typical obedient old-fashioned 1950s "wife" doing her wifely duties.

Here's some text I read recently about someone's thoughts on a male wife role:

"Above all, I believe that as a male wife, your primary responsibility is to ensure the happiness of your spouse. This can only be achieved by letting go of the male-ego, and embracing the feminine-self within. In other words, you must think, act, clean, cook and love like a woman.

This is not to say that men aren’t capable of loving in the “flowery Grandiose” sense of the word. However, the truth remains that women simply and naturally pay much closer attention to all of those details that men frequently ignore. It is indeed the subtleties and details of love that reveal themselves to us gradually, over time. So, in making the conscience choice to serve your spouse's needs above your own, you willingly commit to finding the lost opportunities for love that remain hidden from your male-self.

Just remember, that the male wife is someone who understands that they are neither all masculine or all feminine but a hybrid of both."

--Basically anything that helps a male to focus on being more service-oriented, I'm all for. I know I could sure use help in my home since I have an active social and professional life. And personally I just do not think I should have to do menial domestic tasks. That's what males are for. To be useful to Women. And I actually read about a study recently that said that males who did the household duties in the home were happier and healthier.

Please Her outside and inside the bedroom.

4th of July toys

Earlier I forgot to post this graphic below about 4th of July that I made and which shows some of my things. Better late then never. I had fun seeing what I had that would go with the holiday.

Female Superiority

Here's an article I read in the past about Female Superiority so I thought I'd share it:

"I believe that Women are superior, because research has shown that Women are better leaders (studies have shown that companies led by Women are more successful than companies led by men), we learn faster, we are physiologically superior (men are prone to more diseases than Women), and we live longer than men.

I also believe that God is Female, and that Women are the embodiment of Her, and therefore, are superior to males and should be in charge.

Another reason I believe that Women are superior, is because males are so easily trained, that's why there are so many more men in the military than Women. According to zoologist Desmond Morris, males are more likely to fight in a war, not because they hate the enemy, or because they're fighting for a good cause, but to back up their buddies. An example of this blind obedience (as illustrated on the TV series "the human animal" by Desmond Morris) is in a mall in asia - security guard trainees were told to eat lunch while balancing a banana on their head, and if the banana fell, they had to do 10 pushups as punishment. None of them questioned this rediculous order, all of them obeyed. I believe that this kind of blind obedience is a greater weakness than any Woman could ever have.

Archeologists have not only said that there were no wars in Matriarchal societies, but there were also no weapons. I think that is the best proof that Women should be in charge. I have no doubts that if Women were back in our rightful places as leaders, there would be far fewer wars, if any.

And, yet another reason why I know that Women are superior, is that every human being starts off in the uterus as Female. (The glands that become the ovaries in Women become the testicles in men. The folds of skin that become the labia in Women, become the scrotum in men. The nub that becomes the clitoris in Women, becomes the penis in men). Women are created first. Female is primary and male is secondary.
That's right, guys, you all used to be Female. So, basically, males are a mutation of Females.

Women created only for procreation...
There are male chauvenists who argue that Women were created only for procreation purposes, and that therefore men were meant to be in charge, and Women should just accept that and learn to obey them. Let's follow that logic, shall we?
Now, we know that it takes a man and a Woman for procreation. A Woman is 50% of the procreation process, and a man is 50% of the procreation process. If Women were created only for procreation, then it follows, logically, that men were also created only for procreation purposes, since men and Women each make up 50% of the procreation process.

If men were created only for procreation, as logic would suggest, then that would mean that men are just sperm donors, since after conception, men don't serve any purpose, as far as procreation goes. Since Women have the larger job in procreation (carrying the baby for 9 months) that would mean that Women are more important. If Women are more important than men, that's the same as saying Women are Superior."

Play kidnap

Have you ever thought about being taken? As you can tell from some of my past postings about kidnapping such as this and this, it is one of my fantasies. Some days the urge to kidnap a male is stronger than others and lately it has been very strong since right now I'm in between slaves/subs and am seeking someone new to train to my liking. Maybe I'll take you.

Maybe you'll be kidnapped on your own. That is the best case scenario.

Or what if someone tried to stop Me from taking what I want, then I'd just have to kidnap him too. But once taken, I'd keep them separated so that I could train them individually and their whole world would be Me. I'm sure I could bring out their individual talents or train them in different duties.

A Forced Gag may be in order and Forced Kneeling to your new Owner for the first time. But soon you'll learn to behave exactly how I want and become a good slave for Me. Pleasing Me is what you're here for. It'll give your life some purpose and make Me happy.

That reminds Me...recently I read a description of a video game and it started with this text that reminded me of kidnapping someone:
"One boy will vanish from the safety of his boring existence and fulfill his destiny in a place of mystery..."
(It wasn't about kidnapping but it certainly sounded like it to Me. Mmmmm...)

The Gift of the Domme

Here's an essay I read online by a male sub that I enjoyed.

"The Gift of the Domme
by closetsitter1

In recent mentoring to a few male subs I have come across something which I think many subs fail to recognize. Not by any failure of heart, but simply failure to recognize the true gift a Domme bestows on her submissive. That gift is allowing the submissive the nobility that comes with service.

For myself, I am not a religious man. But like most humans I have the need to believe in something bigger, more noble than myself.
There is a major difference in suffering pain, humiliation, servitude, etc for the “kink” and in doing it in loving sacrifice to your Goddess.

The typical vanilla woman, although she constantly talks about wanting to be adored and worshipped, will very rapidly grow tired of this treatment. It is one of the main reasons a relationship between a vanilla and a lifestyler will fail.

The Domme will graciously and eagerly accept true worship. While the submissive is certainly giving a great gift to a Domme in committed service, the Domme is in reality giving an even greater gift to the submissive by allowing him to have something in his life which is greater than himself.

Just as the penitent Christian makes sacrifices to his God and therefore feels he has achieved some greater good in his life, and hopefully some future reward, the submissive, by serving his very mortal Goddess, has achieved this same euphoric state. But unlike a religious calling, the reward of feeling that “nobility of purpose” is real and quite tangible in the here and now. His pain, his suffering, his humiliation, his chastity, whatever he is giving of himself for the pleasure of his Domme, is giving deep emotional and spiritual meaning to his life.

Of course you may say in the lifestyle that the submissive should be grateful to the Domme for having him. That is simply a given. But in reality, for the dedicated submissive it goes much deeper than a mere lifestyle definition.

All humans have asked those questions……Why am I here?.....Why was I born?.....What purpose does my existence have?......Is my existence merely blind random chance?.....Does my existence have any meaning at all?

For most, the answers lie in religion or some deep philosophical studies taken over years of intense thought and hard work, if they ever gain an answer at all.

For the serious submissive, the answers to those questions are simple, direct, visible, and felt every day. Every time he makes his Domme smile, he KNOWS why he is here. He KNOWS his life serves a noble purpose. He KNOWS that regardless of any philosophical or religious debate over the meaning or reasons for existence, he has his answer in the here and now!

THIS is the ultimate gift of the Domme to her submissive.

To give the submissive an actual physical Goddess who rewards and punishes and guides the submissive in an ever deeper and more rewarding life in devotion and sacrificial service to her.

And the Domme has her answers to those same questions by knowing that in her use of her submissive she has given meaning to what might otherwise be a meaningless life. Therefore she is serving the greater good by allowing herself to truly be worshipped.

Few women hear such a noble calling. Few women can accept true worship. Few women can even accept the service and submission of the men in their lives even though they claim that is exactly what they want. Few women have the intellectual capacity to realize the true strength of character it takes for a man to submit in devoted service.

It takes a very special woman to be a Domme. Just picking up a whip and donning a pair of heels doesn’t mean squat!

The true Domme gives a great gift to a submissive when she accepts him as her own. She gives his life meaning, purpose, and nobility."

------end of his essay----------
My comment on it:
It is true that it does take strength for a male to truly submit totally in devoted service to his Goddess/Mistress. And that there is a major difference in suffering pain, humiliation, servitude, etc for the “kink” and in doing it in loving sacrifice to your Goddess in a long term relationship. Unfortunately there are too many male "subs" who are into it for their kinks and totally miss the deep connection and wonderful relationship that could be had if they were truly looking to unselfishly please a special dominant Woman and belong to Her long term. And I do think it does take a very special woman to be such a Domme. It takes a woman who is confident, has her life together and is in control of herself, self aware, creative, intelligent and who wants to accept the responsibility that comes with truly owning, disciplining and caring for her devoted sub/slave. -Mistress Lisa

Collaring poem

Here's a poem about a collaring that I enjoyed reading.
"Lady" by the male sub astna...

Your power satisfies
Your will beautifies

my weakness is before You
my strength is in You

You have chosen me
Above all before Thee

my heart serves Lady now
my will is possessed by Thou

i feell your tenderness
i wipe away your tears

my body trembles as You place the collar
i am joining Your being

Your sensual hands touch me
The collar locks i have joined Thee