To paraphrase: Submit to me, and I will shape you, mold you, strip you down, and make you into the perfect submissive for me. (end paraphrase).
The words may change, but the intent is the same. Let me ERASE who you are, and remake you into my own ideal.
After screwing up my face in complete contempt for such a mentality, and trying to shake my head hard enough so that my brain can comprehend what I view to be the sheer unadulterated stupidity of such a statement, I usually utter a single question:
What the fuck is the point of that??
Hence the birth of the Chocolate Shake Analogy
It goes like this:
If I want a chocolate shake, I buy a chocolate shake.
I don't buy a strawberry shake, bring it home, find some long drawn out self aggrandizing process of filtering out the strawberry from the rest of the shake, and then slowly and painstakingly adding in chocolate, so I can have a chocolate shake.
When it's put like that, it sounds pretty fuckin' dumb doesn't it?
Submissives are not shakes. But then, no two shakes are exactly alike either. With as many human beings as there are in the world, and as many combinations of kink that can, do, and have always existed, statistically speaking, there is at least ONE submissive out there for every single dominant person. A sub to fit all tastes. It's not faith, friends, it's math.
So, Master-Lord-King-Imafuckingbadassdommymotherfucker, please: If you want a chocolate shake, just go buy a fuckin' chocolate shake, and leave the poor strawberry shakes to their strawberryness."
(--My thoughts: I thought that above analogy was very good. I do not want to erase or completely remake a person. As he said above, if I wanted a chocolate shake, I'd find a chocolate shake. There's lots of different shakes (people) out there in the world afterall. By the way, I've also heard statements like that from male subs out there where they basically say "Strip me of everything I am and remake me into whatever you want". What's the point of that? If I'm interested in someone or with him then it's because I like who they are already. I'm not looking to erase who someone is. --Mistress Lisa)
great way to compare it with a chocolate shake!
ReplyDeleteperfect!
I like the analogy but here is another thought. You can't change chocolate to strawberry but you can change vanilla to either chocolate or strawberry.
ReplyDeleteI think you missed the point entirely. I believe in the vast majority of cases, it's more a sense of "moulding" the submissive to suit the dominants needs, not performing a complete personality transplant.
ReplyDeleteTo expand the analogy, it's akin to adding a little more or a little less whipped cream to the basic article, not transforming it into something it is not.
Speaking for myself, my wife loves me for who I am, but still enjoys shaping me at the edges into someone who is ever more attentive and obedient to her wishes. She can never nor will ever alter my basic personality, but through her actions (both overt and subtle), she makes me "hers" a little more each day.
Best,
Jake
jake,
ReplyDeleteFirst, I did not write the analogy. It was written by someone else...a male dom. Secondly, as he states he's talking about those who specifically say they want to "strip you down" or "ERASE" who who the sub is completely. Not those who like what they already see alot and are simply doing a little fine tuning. (I've also heard from male subs who write to me saying they want to be stripped completely and transformed into someone else totally different. That's what the analogy is talking about...total transformations. And the point is...if I wanted a chocolate shake, I'd go out and find a chocolate shake...instead of transforming someone completely.)