Bdsm cartoons

 Some bdsm related cartoons I enjoyed...

Animated characters seem to like strapons too. Lol. :)

Waiting for Mistress

You waiting for Me in pink one night...

  

I love pink

 

I love pink on sissy sub. I would love to dress a sub up like this, and then have my way with the sub. Seeing pink on a sub usually sexually excites me.

Open up and take it, sissy!

(Jealous? You're next!)

Why men struggle with intimacy

Here's a good article on men that I came across from another domme:

https://goop.com/wellness/relationships/why-men-struggle-with-intimacy/

Bdsm terms

Fetish: "an object or bodily part whose real or fantasied presence is psychologically necessary for sexual gratification and that is an object of fixation to the extent that it may interfere with complete sexual expression."

Fetishist: a person who has a specific fetish.
(Example: a foot fetishist absolutely needs to be near feet or think of feet in order to get sexually aroused and to cum. A fur fetishist absolutely needs fur in order to get sexually aroused and to cum.)

A person who is a "fetishist" is not a submissive or slave because they are only focused on just fulfilling their kinks or fetishes. They are not about the other person and about trusting and surrendering control to the dominant or pleasing another. They are usually more focused on their own selfish pursuit of gratification.

Submissive: someone who is or has a desire to be submissive to another person, or chooses a submissive role within a relationship. They give control to the other person and want to please them, be useful, help make them smile, etc. But they may have some "hard limits" on a few things that they would not do and they have communicated them to their dominant before entering into the consensual relationship. (Do you want to please a dominant woman by giving her control over you for some time, or be useful to her and serve her? Then you're a sub.)

slave: "A person who consensually gives total control to their Master/Mistress/Owner; often giving up much or all of their rights to limits, safewords, or negotiation. Typically a TPE (total power exchange) relationship."
(Think of the historical use of the term slave. A slave rarely exists in a relationship. If it does, it usually takes a long time. And most dominants are not looking for that. And more usually you see this term or role played out in porn or as short-lived extreme slave roles in paid bdsm retreats/weekends usually catered to male fantasy of what a slave is.)

Dominant: "Person who exercises control in a D/s relationship. Male and gender-neutral shortform is Dom. Female shortform is Domme or Domina. Also see Master, Mistress.
Contrast with Top, which usually refers to the person who exercises control in a scene, and who may or may not be a Dominant “full time”, or may not be the Dominant of the person being controlled in the scene."

Top: The person in control during a scene or in play, but may or may not be a Dominant.

Switch: "A person who may feel Dominant/sadistic or submissive/masochistic dependent on the person or their mood. They may play as Top or bottom and may not feel either Dominant or submissive. Usually in different scenes, they enjoy various roles on both sides of the slash."

Crossdresser/Transvestite: "A person who dresses and/or acts in a style or manner traditionally associated with the opposite sex. This does not necessarily define the person’s sexuality or role in a sexual or D/s relationship."

Brat: "A “bratty” submissive has a reputation for talking back, being disrespectful or mildly disobedient. On the surface, this is a negative quality in a submissive; however, a certain amount of “brattiness” is enjoyed by some Dominants, and may in fact be a large component of a power exchange relationship."

Owned: "The state of a submissive or slave who is the consensual partner of a Master or Owner, usually in a long-term relationship. Sometimes referred to as Collared."

Keyholder: "The partner of a person in chastity, who has psychological or physical control over when the chastity can be released. It is commonly literal (the possession of the key to a chastity device)."

Sadist: "A person who enjoys inflicting pain or humiliation on another. The person may gain sexual or non-sexual gratification from this."

Masochist: "A person who enjoys receiving pain or humiliation. May or may not be sexual enjoyment."

Sadomasochist: "A person who enjoys both inflicting and receiving pain or humiliation."

Sissy: "Has many definitions. Simplified (and limited), a male submissive who uses feminization (dressed as a "girl" or naked), often to reach a different emotional or mental state. It can be used as an insult, description, or an endearment, and has more vanilla meanings."

Bdsm interests: different bdsm activities that one may be interested in. (For example, my top bdsm interests are crossdressing, strapon play, impact play, foot worship, receiving domestic service and massage, abduction play, and male chastity.)

To help women with their men

Some of my Whap! magazines from 1996 to 2007. (WHAP = Women wHo Administer Punishment). (Now out of print). And a book called "Rearing a husband" from the Whap! magazine editor. Whap! magazine helped teach women especially wives how to take control of their male. I was already naturally doing many things before I got any of their issues but it was nice to see support. 

I believe without a proper firm hand in his life on a daily basis from his wife or a knowledgeable woman who's there very regularly, some males can get out of hand, such as: he lets his ego get ahead of him and thinks he's all that and should be in control in his non-work life. And he may lie, cheat, gain weight, be uncaring, selfish, and/or become addicted to porn, masterbation, alcohol, drugs or other vices. 

Some males have too much freedom in this world and run amok with it. It takes a caring but strong woman to reel him in.

Some techniques can help, such as..

Ladies, slapping his face may help with his ego problem. 

(be sure to avoid the ear.)

Ladies, you can grab and squeeze his balls to get his attention and get your point across.

Regular discipline and punishment such as wooden hairbrush spankings held firmly in place over the knee can help remind him who's in charge. 

Or use other implements on his ass.

Some of my impact implements.

If he lies or gets uppity, just get a bar of soap, wet and suds it up good for his mouth.

Bad mouths need to be cleaned out!

Wash his mouth out with soap. Make him hold it in his mouth for awhile. Ignore any whining or other sounds.

After his mouth soaping, make him apologize for his bad behavior then send him to bed early with no phone.

And put him in enforced chastity...

Train him in various ways such as sucking and then taking your strapon fem cock. You probably have a bigger cock than him anyway, so it's his place to take it.

(note: I have that strapon cock.)

He'll learn to like being fucked and want it.

His behavior should start to improve.

And you may want to crossdress him as your gurl and help embrace his softer feminine side. 

He can make a nice sissymaid and take care of the house and you. It'll also make him more productive and hopefully less selfish.

Take his ass pussy whenever you want.

Turn him into your submissive sissy wife to please you and serve you. 

Establish rules for him. I have a list of "house rules" and "sissy rules" I came up with. Here are my sissy rules that would please me. 

Ladies, with your clear rules, structure, discipline and punishment, you can turn him into your ideal mate. And he will be better for it and learn to really enjoy serving and pleasing you. You're welcome. :)

Know your place

 

Know your place in my world. 

Your place is on your knees.

Males should serve Females.

The world would be much better off.

Worship a Goddess.

More flowers arrived for me

 

More flowers arrived from another secret admirer. Thank you to whoever sent them to me. I love them! You brought a smile to my face and their wonderful smell fills the room. :)

They are mini carnations that were on my Amazon wishlist.

I especially love receiving surprise gifts. "Gifts" is my main love language, the way I mostly feel love or care. It's the thought that counts. My secondary love language is "words of affirmation". According to the 5lovelanguages.com quiz that I posted about in the past. Everyone receives love or care differently. I like that someone took the time to plan something for me...whether that's flowers, a song, a poem or story, a handwritten letter or note, or another gift. :)

Surrender

 

Her submissive.

Let go of the tough side you may show to the world and instead surrender to me in my arms. Just relax and let go. I want to see your vulnerability and submission. It is a treasure to me. 

Sissymaid that I crossdressed

Here's photos of one of the sissymaids who served me in October....

He got to be transformed by me into my sissymaid with one of the many maid uniforms I have, plus collar, wig, shoes, panties, chastity, and makeup applied by yours truly (Me). And then he served me as my sissymaid, of course.

It was his first time wearing a chastity device and being fully feminized (which he both loved). Since I have so many outfits in my crossdressing room, that was also the first time I put that specific dress on someone. It's actually a krispy cream donut girl outfit. Lol. I thought it looked pretty. I love seeing pink on a submissive. So girly! Embrace your girly side. It's fun and sexy!

I tried another one of the chastity devices that I have on him. I believe all males should be locked up nice and tight. Are you ready to be locked up? You know you should be. And I love having control.

Feminine divine art

 Art I really like related to the feminine divine...

Feminine divine. I love the colors.

It inspires me to paint again.

From a festival at a garden in Canada. 

From an all inclusive beachfront resort in Mexico that I want to visit. Aaah Mexico, I'll come back to you one day and visit here. Art, movement and other classes are held in the mushroom shaped area, there's a mother earth type sculpture of a woman, and a plant-based taco place nearby. And I love being near the water. I'm drawn to it and it soothes my soul. I must be a mermaid. :)

 

Qualities

Good essential qualities...

-Trust: it's based on honesty and reliability, such as truthfulness and if you say you're going to do something then you follow through and do it. Definition..."The belief that someone or something is reliable, honest, effective, etc."

-Respect: The definition is "a feeling or understanding that someone or something is important, serious, etc., and should be treated in an appropriate way".

-Understanding: knowledge and caring about how the other person may feel or the roots of their behavior or a situation. "The ability to sympathize with another person's feelings."

-Loyalty: "unswerving in allegiance such as faithful to a private person." It "implies a firm resistance to any temptation to betray." The state of "giving or showing firm and constant support or allegiance to a person or institution."

Unusual whips

 

Nice whip.

His face amuses Me.

Keep calm

 

Keep calm and cook for me. A male in the kitchen being useful to me and wanting to make me happy is super sexy to me.

Keep calm and do little things for me that I appreciate. 

Keep calm and be my sexy gurl sometimes.

Keep calm and bend over to pick something up in front of me. Lol. ;)

Saturday review of your ass

 

"Sissy, hand me that wooden spoon, take off your apron, kneel and bow down, and then we'll begin things."

I believe Saturdays are for reviewing a live-in sub's week-long behavior, attitude and chores and then administering punishment or reward as appropriate. For tracking purposes, I keep a printed booklet I've made with weekly behavioral review charts for a year's worth. I believe it could come in handy when I select and then have a live-in sub in order to help ensure the best behavior. Could you benefit from a loving dominant woman at home who cares enough to want to ensure your weekly tasks and progress are the best for her?

Kneeling and waiting as she's about to review his weekly behavior chart.

Do you self sabotage?

I noticed someone sabotaging something that could have been great. So I thought I'd talk about self sabotaging.

- Are you sabotaging yourself or your relationships?
- Are you procrastinating? (do you feel like you don't deserve something? Are you afraid to take action in case you mess it up? Are you ignoring something or acting lazy because it's easier?)
- Are you self medicating? (addictions to drugs, alcohol, food or smoking. Is it easier to get drunk than deal with things? Are you doing something due to stress?)
- Are you not healed from past childhood trauma or childhood patterns? Do you have any shame about the past?
- Are you acting out against others? (Trying to push others away)
- Are you stopping when things are just about to get good or different? (Afraid to get out of your comfort zone)
- Do you have negative or limited beliefs about yourself?
- Are you letting fear stop you?

Everyone self sabotages at some point. And it can be conscious or unconscious sabotaging. How do you stop self sabotage?
The first step is to recognize what's happening, and then identify the specific need that your self sabotage fulfills. And try to recognize if a negative belief about yourself is fueling your behavior. And come up with alternative beliefs or behaviors.

For more info, I recommend viewing both of these links..

- Self sabotage: why you do it. (article)

- Self sabotage: How to overcome it. 

(video. And explains a helpful worksheet to write down stuff to work through any limiting negative beliefs.)

Fear of having something great or fear of screwing something up or the belief of not being worthy or loveable...can sometimes mess things up for you and possibly hurt others in the process. I think working through negative beliefs like shown in the 2nd link above can help people. It takes courage to confront inner beliefs and habits and want to change things for the better. But I believe we all have things to work on.  

Chastity won't stop us

 

You'll learn to take it and like it.