Do you self sabotage?

I noticed someone sabotaging something that could have been great. So I thought I'd talk about self sabotaging.

- Are you sabotaging yourself or your relationships?
- Are you procrastinating? (do you feel like you don't deserve something? Are you afraid to take action in case you mess it up? Are you ignoring something or acting lazy because it's easier?)
- Are you self medicating? (addictions to drugs, alcohol, food or smoking. Is it easier to get drunk than deal with things? Are you doing something due to stress?)
- Are you not healed from past childhood trauma or childhood patterns? Do you have any shame about the past?
- Are you acting out against others? (Trying to push others away)
- Are you stopping when things are just about to get good or different? (Afraid to get out of your comfort zone)
- Do you have negative or limited beliefs about yourself?
- Are you letting fear stop you?

Everyone self sabotages at some point. And it can be conscious or unconscious sabotaging. How do you stop self sabotage?
The first step is to recognize what's happening, and then identify the specific need that your self sabotage fulfills. And try to recognize if a negative belief about yourself is fueling your behavior. And come up with alternative beliefs or behaviors.

For more info, I recommend viewing both of these links..

- Self sabotage: why you do it. (article)

- Self sabotage: How to overcome it. 

(video. And explains a helpful worksheet to write down stuff to work through any limiting negative beliefs.)

Fear of having something great or fear of screwing something up or the belief of not being worthy or loveable...can sometimes mess things up for you and possibly hurt others in the process. I think working through negative beliefs like shown in the 2nd link above can help people. It takes courage to confront inner beliefs and habits and want to change things for the better. But I believe we all have things to work on.