Things important to me in a relationship:
-Obedience from a submissive. (If a sub says no, or whines about a
task I have set, or procrastinates on a task I gave, the sub chips away at the very foundation that makes the relationship strong, that makes us us.)
-That a sub be happy in the relationship (If he's not happy serving me then why serve? I'd rather have someone who loves serving me and not do anything to mess that up. If I am with a sub, he must remember that I have chosen him out of many admirers.)
-Loyalty. (Ideally when a sub bows before me, I want to consider him a precious gift...the gift of giving himself totally to me)
-Trust. (vitally important. Me of him and him of me.)
-Honesty and Communication. (The basis of everything.)
-Attraction. (If there is none in a relationship then why bother? I am looking for attraction, love, romance, and passion/intensity.)
-Thoughtfulness. (I want someone who will remember me on my birthday and holidays. Those are important to me. Someone who takes time to plan something special in advance in order to help make me smile...even if it is a homemade gift. The time spent is important. It's the thought that counts.)
-Politeness. (someone who says please or thank you. Especially if I give him something. Someone who always replies to my questions or comments as soon as he can.)
-An emotional connection. And admiring similiarities and respecting differences in traits.
-Playfulness/fun.
Sunday, October 27, 2013
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I hope you had a wonderful Halloween, Mistress!
ReplyDeleteThe list of traits is well spoken. Obedience is a pillar of a good D/s relationship. Finding a relationship where one’s submissiveness flows naturally with the Mistress dominance is truly divine. There is something truly satisfying in the yin-yang energy between a Dominant and submissive. Finding joy in this service is important. Serving a dominant that truly enjoys one’s service also help create this positive energetic.
Loyalty and Honesty build the Trust that is the bedrock of any relation and particularly true for a D/s relationship. There is a unique vulnerability created in a D/s relationship that requires a deep level of trust. We open ourselves physically and emotionally. Share the most intimate details that often stay hidden in a vanilla relationship.
Being thoughtful and polite are good qualities for all. We are all fellow travelers on the journey of life so there is little reason not to make our interaction with other as positive as we are able. I think they are good qualities for both submissives and Dominants. Some feel a Dominant should appear impossible to please. I personally find a Dominant who expresses their thanks and gratitude positively reinforces the submissive and invigorates a submissive’s service.
Attraction and Emotional Connection allow the relationship to grow deeper and richer.
Being able to be Playful and have Fun with life makes it worth living and sharing. Life is what you make of it so being able to share and enjoy the light hearted moments.
Thank you, Mistress. Your blog is fun to follow and your posts illuminating about your philosophies.