I was at a healthy food potluck recently and found myself sitting next to a blonde woman. She was very skinny. And I sat down next to her with my plate of some very healthy light food such as salad, sprouts and raw veggie dishes. I asked her why she wasn't eating and her response was that she gained 5 pounds so she's trying not to eat anything. (again she was very skinny). And I got the sense from her that she seemed very uncomfortable in her own skin or talking to people. Such a shame... a beautiful woman with no good self/body image or confidence. I tried to tell her that she did not need to lose anything and that she looked good as is but she already made up her mind. She was just very uncomfortable with who she was. I've always had alot of confidence so she seemed very unusual to me. So my message to anybody out there (especially women) is to: Embrace who you are. Accept it. Love it. Unless you're unhealthy, I do not see a reason to change. Be positive and focus on your good qualities and embrace your quirks. Everyone is unique and that's a good thing. Look in the mirror and think positively about who you are.For 10 ways to help improve your self esteem or self image, this article may help.
You are right.
ReplyDeleteWe all have slightly or majorly different physiques with which to work, and that needs to be part of who and what we are. Trying to satisfy a "norm" is not only futile, but stupid.
I do have a preferred body style for my appreciation of the female form. However, I also realise that any woman out there is not there for the purpose of satisfying my sensual cravings encased in the human female form.
I do appreciate any woman feeling good about herself regardless of size or shape. We have a lot of latitude in satisfying a reasonable form and healthy support of that form. Outside of that one has to deal with consequences. As for anyone's approval, I always say, "Is the one making the comment paying my bills? If not, then butt out."
There are a lot of people out there whom I would love to meet and befriend even though they don't meet the weight requirement. I always say, "It's not what you have, but what you do with it!"